Homebirth General Discussion #1

[Smoke Jaguar]

Oh, man, I forgot to welcome you, Rors!!
Tomorrow's the day - I hope you feel our warming thoughts, Bimboo
Tegam - just noticed your loss My mum had two ectopic pregnancies (after me and after my sister), and I always mean to ask her about her feelings about this - it gets mentioned, but I haven't thought to talk about it since my sister and I had kids, and then second pregnancies. I must do that.

[LionsandBears]

Thinking of you today Bimboo

Welcome Rory - the public program sounds great. Wish I had access to one, but we're paying for it privately.

[harleysgirl]

Thinking of you today Bimboo, i have lite up a candle already for you. It will burn all day.

[Tegam]

Candles burning Bimboo..... Huge hugs!

Mayaness.. I would ask your mum about it, i bet it would be one of the first times she has spoken of it. I am physically better, mental ok and emotionally messed up still (does that even make sense?) I am carrying on day to day as normal (LUcky life is hectic with three so this isnt hard) But i am still having to play games on m mobile til my eyes are hanging out, rather than lie in bed thinking about things. One of the hardest things which is so different from my MC is to think that this little bubba was perfect, just grew in the wrong spot. And i know that there is NOTHING i could have done but i still feel my body failed that baby. I also had genetic testing on the MC so i knew the sex, something i didnt do this time and i am really struggling with not knowing. I know i could make it up but i NEVER have any maternal feelings on sex when im pregnant so i really would be making it up. Its not like i want to name it, i just wish i knew. I am struggling with the thought of trying again, in that i mean that i hope i fall quickly. I did after my MC and it really helped, i hope i dont have a long wait ahead of me. My arms and heart feel empty But i also know how lucky i am for the three i have. When i say i feel empty its really like a thought in the back of my mind like i have forgotten something.....weird.

ANYWAY sorry i didnt mean to have a big D & M, just thinking of Bimboo is making it all seem sader today. I wish i could give her some strength and i wish no mother ever had to bury her baby!

[Smoke Jaguar]

D&M away My mum mentions it and kind of glosses over it - probably because at the time (70s) you were treated as if it was never really a pregnancy at all and I reckon a bit of her emotional issues (anger management etc) can be attributed to this time. She would have been told to get on with it because she had a healthy daughter (for the first one) then two healthy daughters (for the second one). She was so disempowered coming to this country - had she been pregnant back in her original country she would have been nurtured incredibly, and she would have had us at home with a doula from the village, the way my grandma did.
Anyway, I think recent events have started a few things for us in this thread - that's not a bad thing everyone.

[Ellibam]

Love to you Bimboo.



Rory that is awesome that you have been "accepted" into the sunshine HB program!

[Roryrory]

Just had my first MW appointment today, her name is Melanie and she is lovely, aside from being an obvious HB advocate she had had 4 children herself, one of whom was born at home. Heard a HB which was promising and now I am just counting down.