Beatrix I second what Tanya said about the list... I really had practically NOTHING for birth. Just towels food & mirror etc (no herbs or anything like that) just made sure I had a cover on the bed which was good for dd but didn't go on the bed at all for ds. I was more concerned about having things ready for baby!

As for dh, how much does he know about hb? Oftentimes its just the unknown that causes caution. I'm nit sure what exactly to recommend for him though as I'm blessed to have a very hb oriented dh, he wouldve had be freebirth ALL our babies!! Lol but he comes from a large family where mil had hbs for the last 4 or 5 children so he knows how 'normal & beautiful' it can be... Either that or he just can't be stuffed taking me to hospital