Homebirth General Discussion #3

[onthefly]

It's cool Tegam, we all getcha
I feel the same way - and you're right, they don't care. I think too many people mark success or failure by whether you're alive at the end of it or not. Personally, that's not good enough for me!
I'm sorry you and your DH don't see eye to eye over this, that's gotta be extra, extra stressful. Is he a rational bloke, would it be helpful to see the risks of inductions to help him to understand better where you're coming from?
It can be so hard to know what is best, or what is the right decision to make when you can't even trust those giving you medical advice

[Cassius2]

It's cool Tegam, we all getcha
I feel the same way - and you're right, they don't care. I think too many people mark success or failure by whether you're alive at the end of it or not. Personally, that's not good enough for me!

:yeahthat: i can totally agree with that sentiment. it was what was told to me after DD1s birth...how lucky we were to be in the hospital when she stopped breathing. what they didnt want to acknowledge was that the reason why she stopped breathing was because they gave me pethidine (without consent, but that's a whole other story!) when i presented in labour at 38 weeks pg. really they should of thought about it rather than just giving it without consideration of the individual situation ITMS.

is there anyone that you have that can be your support person (i'm thinking an IM or such) that can be there for you in the hospital? they can be really great advocates and protectors of the birthing family. i know it's getting to the business end but maybe a possibility??

Meow: i'll track them down! one is on here in the birth montage thread....just posted a few days ago of the lady in brazil...her kids were sooo cute. but there is another one, an aussie one of a mum in a white bikini top with her toddler boy and she is in your bog standard bathtub...just gorgeous *goes off to investigate*

*EDIT* Here it is: Aussie one...
Brazilian one...

[onthefly]

Thanks Cassius! I just watched those with DS. He was quite interested - thought it was very cool that there was a boy like him in the first one.

I'm gobsmacked that they gave you pethedine without asking. That's shocking. Well, wait, i guess it isn't really.

[meow]

Hmm Tegam, I have a hard time believing that if your baby MUST come early they know that now but can wait 3 more weeks. Either it's critical now, or you wait and see. I'd just keep trucking along and see what the further diagnosis closer to the time brings up. I understand this must be so stressful for you... and I completely get what you are saying about the birth.

A very good friend of mine just had her baby today, induced at 37 weeks. They lost their first baby at 34 weeks so to wait till 37 weeks has been very hard for her and I completely respect that... but in a conversation I had with her about birth plans etc a while ago she said "I'm just going to do whatever they tell me to do. I just want a live baby". I found that hard because I want a live baby too... but not exploring birth at all and just listening to someone tell me to have an epidural or whatever is not how I want to approach birth. I want a live baby AND a positive birth experience for me AND my baby.

I often think of you being given pethadine while your H was shut out and you were saying "no" Cassius. That abuse just gives me chills

Thank you SO much for the birth videos! I was struggling to trawl through montages and find good videos my son could watch and hear. We watched this one and it went well- he laughed when the baby was coming out He helps me make the "noises to help baby come out" and seemed really intriged when the mother made noise in this video.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OBqMPq2Rxus

[meow]

I always forget things... thanks for passing on that Arimeh was thinking of me Tegam! That's really lovely I'm looking forward to her being back and hopefully still planning a HB.

And I am wilting a bit in the heat Cassius! Starting to swell up a little which is always lovely

[Tegam]

Meow! Arimeh must be due back soon she banned herself for a month over some nasty comments in another thread but she so misses this thread. Yes she is still planning a HB or at the least a birth centre spot!

Thanks for your comments. Thats what i am struggling with. If things are so bad then how can we wait another two weeks for another scan and have no monitoring or anything in the middle. I get the feeling that they are pushing the negatives of the fluid and growth as a way to make sure i dont let myself have a HB. But i am just walking the line at the momemt and waiting to see that next scan!

IF ONE MORE PERSON CONGRATULATES ME ON MY INDUCEMENT DATE ILL SCREAM! It is not a positive thing and yes a live birth and a healthy mumma at the end is the most important thing but surely there is some room to make the experience safe and positive for us both!!!

[Eenee]

IF ONE MORE PERSON CONGRATULATES ME ON MY INDUCEMENT DATE ILL SCREAM! It is not a positive thing and yes a live birth and a healthy mumma at the end is the most important thing but surely there is some room to make the experience safe and positive for us both!!!

Didn't think you'd be to pleased with people congratulating you on this
It's hard to know if they're pushing you for an induction for concern over you and your baby or whether thats just what they want. It's a tough situation to be in hun and I don't envy you at all. Also hard when husbands aren't supportive of our decisions. But I guess they have their concerns to, but frustrating all the same. If ya need to chat you know how to contact me.