Homebirth General Discussion #3

[onthefly]

Thanks Cassius! I just watched those with DS. He was quite interested - thought it was very cool that there was a boy like him in the first one.

I'm gobsmacked that they gave you pethedine without asking. That's shocking. Well, wait, i guess it isn't really.

[meow]

Hmm Tegam, I have a hard time believing that if your baby MUST come early they know that now but can wait 3 more weeks. Either it's critical now, or you wait and see. I'd just keep trucking along and see what the further diagnosis closer to the time brings up. I understand this must be so stressful for you... and I completely get what you are saying about the birth.

A very good friend of mine just had her baby today, induced at 37 weeks. They lost their first baby at 34 weeks so to wait till 37 weeks has been very hard for her and I completely respect that... but in a conversation I had with her about birth plans etc a while ago she said "I'm just going to do whatever they tell me to do. I just want a live baby". I found that hard because I want a live baby too... but not exploring birth at all and just listening to someone tell me to have an epidural or whatever is not how I want to approach birth. I want a live baby AND a positive birth experience for me AND my baby.

I often think of you being given pethadine while your H was shut out and you were saying "no" Cassius. That abuse just gives me chills

Thank you SO much for the birth videos! I was struggling to trawl through montages and find good videos my son could watch and hear. We watched this one and it went well- he laughed when the baby was coming out He helps me make the "noises to help baby come out" and seemed really intriged when the mother made noise in this video.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OBqMPq2Rxus

[meow]

I always forget things... thanks for passing on that Arimeh was thinking of me Tegam! That's really lovely I'm looking forward to her being back and hopefully still planning a HB.

And I am wilting a bit in the heat Cassius! Starting to swell up a little which is always lovely

[Tegam]

Meow! Arimeh must be due back soon she banned herself for a month over some nasty comments in another thread but she so misses this thread. Yes she is still planning a HB or at the least a birth centre spot!

Thanks for your comments. Thats what i am struggling with. If things are so bad then how can we wait another two weeks for another scan and have no monitoring or anything in the middle. I get the feeling that they are pushing the negatives of the fluid and growth as a way to make sure i dont let myself have a HB. But i am just walking the line at the momemt and waiting to see that next scan!

IF ONE MORE PERSON CONGRATULATES ME ON MY INDUCEMENT DATE ILL SCREAM! It is not a positive thing and yes a live birth and a healthy mumma at the end is the most important thing but surely there is some room to make the experience safe and positive for us both!!!

[Eenee]

IF ONE MORE PERSON CONGRATULATES ME ON MY INDUCEMENT DATE ILL SCREAM! It is not a positive thing and yes a live birth and a healthy mumma at the end is the most important thing but surely there is some room to make the experience safe and positive for us both!!!

Didn't think you'd be to pleased with people congratulating you on this
It's hard to know if they're pushing you for an induction for concern over you and your baby or whether thats just what they want. It's a tough situation to be in hun and I don't envy you at all. Also hard when husbands aren't supportive of our decisions. But I guess they have their concerns to, but frustrating all the same. If ya need to chat you know how to contact me.

[Tegam]

Thanks Em, its not even really that DH isnt supporting me and my decision, he is just pushing for me to make a decision but agrees its almost impossible. Then seems negative to all my options and then says ill support you with whatever you decide. Well f&%k that for a joke that isnt support. Talk to me about it, i know im emotional about it but its not really something that you cant be emotional about it and its not something that you can go off the facts cause there really arent any facts in front of us!!!

Grrrrrr

You noticed all the congrats and no one commented on the concerns.....OOhhhhh lucky me i get to be one of those women that put up their hands of responsibility and get to say, oh the OB saved my life!!! grrrrr

[onthefly]

I'm not sure why anyone would be happy about that Tegam It's a crap situation all round.
I was thinking the same thing as Meow - don't quite understand how it can be so urgent if you're waiting 2 weeks before checking again... I really don't envy your situation at all.

How are things with you em?

Thanks for that link Meow - DS also enjoyed that one.