Homebirth General Discussion #3

[Tegam]

Meow! Arimeh must be due back soon she banned herself for a month over some nasty comments in another thread but she so misses this thread. Yes she is still planning a HB or at the least a birth centre spot!

Thanks for your comments. Thats what i am struggling with. If things are so bad then how can we wait another two weeks for another scan and have no monitoring or anything in the middle. I get the feeling that they are pushing the negatives of the fluid and growth as a way to make sure i dont let myself have a HB. But i am just walking the line at the momemt and waiting to see that next scan!

IF ONE MORE PERSON CONGRATULATES ME ON MY INDUCEMENT DATE ILL SCREAM! It is not a positive thing and yes a live birth and a healthy mumma at the end is the most important thing but surely there is some room to make the experience safe and positive for us both!!!

[Eenee]

IF ONE MORE PERSON CONGRATULATES ME ON MY INDUCEMENT DATE ILL SCREAM! It is not a positive thing and yes a live birth and a healthy mumma at the end is the most important thing but surely there is some room to make the experience safe and positive for us both!!!

Didn't think you'd be to pleased with people congratulating you on this
It's hard to know if they're pushing you for an induction for concern over you and your baby or whether thats just what they want. It's a tough situation to be in hun and I don't envy you at all. Also hard when husbands aren't supportive of our decisions. But I guess they have their concerns to, but frustrating all the same. If ya need to chat you know how to contact me.

[Tegam]

Thanks Em, its not even really that DH isnt supporting me and my decision, he is just pushing for me to make a decision but agrees its almost impossible. Then seems negative to all my options and then says ill support you with whatever you decide. Well f&%k that for a joke that isnt support. Talk to me about it, i know im emotional about it but its not really something that you cant be emotional about it and its not something that you can go off the facts cause there really arent any facts in front of us!!!

Grrrrrr

You noticed all the congrats and no one commented on the concerns.....OOhhhhh lucky me i get to be one of those women that put up their hands of responsibility and get to say, oh the OB saved my life!!! grrrrr

[onthefly]

I'm not sure why anyone would be happy about that Tegam It's a crap situation all round.
I was thinking the same thing as Meow - don't quite understand how it can be so urgent if you're waiting 2 weeks before checking again... I really don't envy your situation at all.

How are things with you em?

Thanks for that link Meow - DS also enjoyed that one.

[Eenee]

Tegam: Wish I could make it all better for you!

Marcellus: Things are going well just can't wait to have a homebirth and my little one in my arms (well obviously I can wait until Bub is to term). Still don't think it's quite sunk in yet though!

[Cassius2]

good to hear from you Em! wow, look at your ticker you'll be on the countdown soon!! woo hoo!!!!!!!

tegam: oh babe, this is such a stressful situation to be in, big phat . a girl in my MG had a similar story where they kept doing scan after scan after scan. kept telling her about her baby's 'poor' growth and such like, but TBH my instinct was that they had pegged her as high risk cause she was pushing 40 and had decided that it was easier for them to control the situation. her baby was born a good weight for gestation (they induced her at 38 weeks) and she was perfectly healthy as was the placenta...so i dont know...how accurate are these scans?? i mean, i would of thought that if growth was seriously comprimised that it would be easily enough detected...but then again i am no expert...arghhh, i can only imagine what you guys are going through. is there anyway to get some third party advice on the situation? like someone that is more open to your wishes and might be able to assess the situation with that in mind? nothing worse than feeling bullied xx

Meow: thanks for the link! i remember that one because i loved the way they filmed her through the pool...so cool!

Arimeh: hope you come back soon sweets xx sorry to hear that there were some nasty things flown your way on bb of all places . been there a year ago and boy it rocks your world xx