Homebirth General Discussion #3

[Arimeh]

AE- so glad you're feeling good about the birth... and excited! I'm excited for you Would love you to keep sharing your journey with us.

Oh thanks! I'd love to keep posting in here, if its alright with everyone else of course. I think you guys are the best

And about placentas - I didn't see my placenta last time, and don't know if I want to take a look this time. I suppose I *should* simply because I won't get a chance to look at it ever again.....

Hey what does everyone think about your mind inhibiting labour from starting? I was thinking about previous pregnancies, and I know I was scared of going into labour when I was pregnant with DS because I had an elective c-section at 39 weeks booked, and I started losing my plug at 36 weeks, which freaked me out because I didn't want to go into labour!!!

Then with DD1, I wanted to have her naturally but was sooooo scared of going into labour then I think I held onto her till 42 weeks when she absolutely had to come out because she would have died otherwise - so maybe I knew that I wasn't ready for labour yet?

And with DD2, I only went into labour after admitting to DH that I was scared about going into labour and having a huge meltdown the night before...

So maybe this time I won't go overdue if my mind is without fear and my body knows what its doing? What do you think? Am I talkin "crazyyyy talk"?

[Tegam]

DD2 came the morning after house guests and DH went off to work. It had been an insane few weeks and i remember saying to myslef as i went to bed after every one had left the house and it was just DD1 and i. Oh the peace and quiet, this is bliss, i survived those massive weeks, now i can have my baby. Oops just a few hours later after NO warning my waters broke! She was almost 4weeks early. Im sure it was just that relief that all was calm again!


Also: i know that i thought DS would come early and DH took from 37-39weeks off, there was huge pressure to produce a child within that time seeing he had missed the last birth. We were all $hitty and it was a horrid two weeks BUT baby didnt budge until 10hrs after i had a huge meltdown and told DH he was just going to miss the birth. It was wednesady night and he was due to go away on friday. We both cried and cried and hugged and made up.....then DS was born the next morning when all the pressure was off!

So yes i guess that i totally believe. I have also read stories of WW2 women in london that were in labour and then a bomb would hit and they would stop their labour until later when it was safer!!!

AMAZING stuff!

[Cassius2]

totally believe that fear/stress/tension can hold it off. i was all set to go with Marta; she was engaged, colostrum leaks, the works...then mum arrived and brought hr bad mood with her...and BAM, baby moved up and most distressing was the colostrum disappeared! then we had a huge fight, followed by a good D&M, i stood up from he couch and doubled over as marta engaged! 5 hours later i had my first wave...

[onthefly]

Yeah, I think it's a mammal thing.
I've been wondering the same, though. Last time I didn't really face up to it, but deep down I was really uncomfortable and anxious about the doctor and being in the hospital. DH was too (probably even more so than me) but we never talked about it. So perhaps that was why even at 42 weeks we still weren't ready to go... But maybe not and I"m just being overly optimistic in hoping I might not still be pregnant come christmas

Some nurse Tegam

[Tegam]

marcelles: its amazing what that nurses uniform does to me! Transforms me into guts / blood loving women, but pregnant and at home...yucko!

[onthefly]

Oh, that's alright then

Laura did suggest marking the container well so noone gets a nasty surprise

[Tegam]

[meow]

I'm looking forward to your baby's arrival Marcellus!!! My birthday is Dec 6... it's a good day!

I'm in two minds about fear and labour. I do believe it can stall labour, but I don't think every woman who gestates to 42 weeks was fearful and holding the baby in. Some women jsut naturally gestate for that length of time.

Just had a thought AE- your MW for HB was going to be the one you'll have at thebirth centre right? She was happy to do HBbut couldn't get a secondary MW? Perhaps will she do home visits for ante and post-natal care? That's a huge perk of HB so if you could just have that it would be something.

On my day 4 milky blues day I called my MW for an appointment and she came out, helped me with feeding, gave me cuddles and tucked me into bed before leaving. Love her!

[Cassius2]

that is very cool Meow. ahhh yet another benefit of HB! midwives that care and can take the time to really look after us LOVE IT!