Homebirth General Discussion #3

[meow]

Thank you!! I missed having you here to share the news.

Such a shame for you... but your birth centre sounds like a really good one, being independent from the hospital. I'm sure you're going to have an awesome birth!!!

[Arimeh]

Naw I missed all you guys too!!!!!

I'm sure I will have an awesome birth, I'm just about finished Childbirth without fear, which is an awesome book for someone like me. I realise how scared I was last time and I don't have the same fears this time - actually, its pretty fair to say I have no fear at the moment and am looking FORWARD to it. Considering one of my first posts in this thread, I've come a long way

Anyway - congrats to you and good luck to the rest of you lovely ladies waiting their turn!

[Cassius2]

i have missed seeing you around Arimeh!!!! and wow, look at that ticker!! woot woo!! coming along nicely

it is a real shame about the no homebirth...but i'm with Meow, your birth centre sounds fantastic, and i LOVE that it is a separate establishment from the hossy...completely different vibe i'd say!

[onthefly]

Sorry you're not getting a homebirth Arimeh, but the BC sounds good! Not too bad as compromises go

We're all set for the birth - once we've finished eating the icecream that is (need the container for the placenta).
Laura pretty much said they don't recommend suturing unless the tearing is quite extensive and/or bleeding lots, so I guess that sounds reasonable.

[Cassius2]

yay for no stitches! i swear i didnt even notice the tear this time around! no stinging or anything!

Marc: wow, i just looked at your sig!!!! you are definitely on the home stretch!!! oh my gosh it is all just so exciting!!! i wish i could relive Marta's birth all over again!!! i also wish that i had of remembered to film it. luckily my birth support midwife is also a professional photographer so she has taken some beautiful shots, but man i wish i had a video to remember it all....

[Tegam]

YAY Arimeh is back! I dont see why you cant stay and chat! I am probably not having one this time either but i still like to talk the talk!!

Marcellus: you know i had trouble finishing the ice cream last time cause everytime i ate it i thought of my placenta being in it! Congrats on being all set, thats a nice feeling for you! I like the sound of your MW re the stitches!

Meow: how you feeling??

[onthefly]

I'm wondering if it wil fit int he container. DS's was quite big. Laura assures me with will fold and squish in...

[Tegam]

marcellus TMI now i dont feel like i can eat ice cream think about your placenta all squished! Go and buy a bigger container, for me, please!

[onthefly]

Sorry about that. I've been enjoying my icecream and haven't thought about placentas at all....

[Tegam]

Just promise me it wasnt raspberry cream swirl and ill be ok!

[onthefly]

errr....

nah, it's vanilla

[Tegam]

ahhh all i could see were chunks for red in my nice white ice cream LOL! Cant remember what we did with the placenta, is that bad

[meow]

Look away now Tegam, I have a good placenta/icecream container story... My aunty & cousins came to help look after my little boy (though they missed the birth and arrived afterwards). My 9 year old cousin apparently found the placenta because he said to my H "I wondered why you had an ice cream comtainer on the bench so I looked inside to see if the ice cream was melted but it was full of blood and guts!:

I'm well thanks Tegam. Yesterday was yucky... had the teary, milky blues and cracked nipples. But Helen came & helped with attachment and today I feel better & feedingis improving heaps! Went to the chiro today and my hips & pelvis needed a lot of adjusting... funny that! Little baby barely needed adjusting though The resting is going great... not lying down ALL the time but going slow, no lifting etc and I'm feeling really well. I was shattered after my first so I'm really happy to be doing so much better now.

AE- so glad you're feeling good about the birth... and excited! I'm excited for you Would love you to keep sharing your journey with us.

[Tegam]

Yes i was thinking about AE and her/you saying that you had to leave the thread. This is a homebirth thread but no where does it say you have to have or have had a homebirth! Its also where alot of us come to get our natural reality of birth and support others trying to make the decision where to birth their baby!


Oh meow: I was doing so well this morning and you did say look away but now i feel off! Time for dry toast! You would never guess im a nurse and i love to see a good placenta after a birth but right now....it all just seems too.....real!

Nice to get the teary day out of the way! Glad that you are all realined. You had a water birth? I have already forgotten? Found out there is a bath in one of the labour rooms at the hospital.....wondering if the thought of birthing at hospital can have the sting taken out of it by the thought of a water birth???

Has anyone every heard of anything going wrong with a water birth as in the baby taking in some water?? It just occured to me that DD2 cried before her body was out. The OB, MW, mum and i were so shocked???

[meow]

Babies don't breathe till they hit air. So head out in a land birth is different to head out in a water birth. Only thing is in a water birth you have you make sure you don't bring them out of the water and dunk them again. My contractions were making me move upright at the end so one of my MWs put a hand on my bum to help me keep it underwater as my son's head was out, but not his body. If you do stand up with their head out, then you have to stay standing.

[Tegam]

Oh thank you. I knew i had never heard of anything negative but thought i should ask the question. My babies all come straight out, there is no waiting for shoulders or anything so i dont think that would be a worry. DD6 and DD4 want to be at the birth and i also thought that a water birth would be less graphic for them??

Just trying to find a positive to a not so happy compromise im probably going to have to make!

[Arimeh]

AE- so glad you're feeling good about the birth... and excited! I'm excited for you Would love you to keep sharing your journey with us.

Oh thanks! I'd love to keep posting in here, if its alright with everyone else of course. I think you guys are the best

And about placentas - I didn't see my placenta last time, and don't know if I want to take a look this time. I suppose I *should* simply because I won't get a chance to look at it ever again.....

Hey what does everyone think about your mind inhibiting labour from starting? I was thinking about previous pregnancies, and I know I was scared of going into labour when I was pregnant with DS because I had an elective c-section at 39 weeks booked, and I started losing my plug at 36 weeks, which freaked me out because I didn't want to go into labour!!!

Then with DD1, I wanted to have her naturally but was sooooo scared of going into labour then I think I held onto her till 42 weeks when she absolutely had to come out because she would have died otherwise - so maybe I knew that I wasn't ready for labour yet?

And with DD2, I only went into labour after admitting to DH that I was scared about going into labour and having a huge meltdown the night before...

So maybe this time I won't go overdue if my mind is without fear and my body knows what its doing? What do you think? Am I talkin "crazyyyy talk"?

[Tegam]

DD2 came the morning after house guests and DH went off to work. It had been an insane few weeks and i remember saying to myslef as i went to bed after every one had left the house and it was just DD1 and i. Oh the peace and quiet, this is bliss, i survived those massive weeks, now i can have my baby. Oops just a few hours later after NO warning my waters broke! She was almost 4weeks early. Im sure it was just that relief that all was calm again!


Also: i know that i thought DS would come early and DH took from 37-39weeks off, there was huge pressure to produce a child within that time seeing he had missed the last birth. We were all $hitty and it was a horrid two weeks BUT baby didnt budge until 10hrs after i had a huge meltdown and told DH he was just going to miss the birth. It was wednesady night and he was due to go away on friday. We both cried and cried and hugged and made up.....then DS was born the next morning when all the pressure was off!

So yes i guess that i totally believe. I have also read stories of WW2 women in london that were in labour and then a bomb would hit and they would stop their labour until later when it was safer!!!

AMAZING stuff!