Homebirth General Discussion #3

**Cassius2** · December 1st, 2010, 11:21 AM

totally believe that fear/stress/tension can hold it off. i was all set to go with Marta; she was engaged, colostrum leaks, the works...then mum arrived and brought hr bad mood with her...and BAM, baby moved up and most distressing was the colostrum disappeared! then we had a huge fight, followed by a good D&M, i stood up from he couch and doubled over as marta engaged! 5 hours later i had my first wave...

**onthefly** · December 1st, 2010, 11:54 AM

Yeah, I think it's a mammal thing.
I've been wondering the same, though. Last time I didn't really face up to it, but deep down I was really uncomfortable and anxious about the doctor and being in the hospital. DH was too (probably even more so than me) but we never talked about it. So perhaps that was why even at 42 weeks we still weren't ready to go... But maybe not and I"m just being overly optimistic in hoping I might not still be pregnant come christmas

Some nurse Tegam

**Tegam** · December 1st, 2010, 12:23 PM

marcelles: its amazing what that nurses uniform does to me! Transforms me into guts / blood loving women, but pregnant and at home...yucko!

**onthefly** · December 1st, 2010, 01:02 PM

Oh, that's alright then

Laura did suggest marking the container well so noone gets a nasty surprise

**Tegam** · December 1st, 2010, 02:38 PM

**meow** · December 1st, 2010, 04:17 PM

I'm looking forward to your baby's arrival Marcellus!!! My birthday is Dec 6... it's a good day!

I'm in two minds about fear and labour. I do believe it can stall labour, but I don't think every woman who gestates to 42 weeks was fearful and holding the baby in. Some women jsut naturally gestate for that length of time.

Just had a thought AE- your MW for HB was going to be the one you'll have at thebirth centre right? She was happy to do HBbut couldn't get a secondary MW? Perhaps will she do home visits for ante and post-natal care? That's a huge perk of HB so if you could just have that it would be something.

On my day 4 milky blues day I called my MW for an appointment and she came out, helped me with feeding, gave me cuddles and tucked me into bed before leaving. Love her!

**Cassius2** · December 1st, 2010, 04:22 PM

that is very cool Meow. ahhh yet another benefit of HB! midwives that care and can take the time to really look after us

LOVE IT!

**Tegam** · December 1st, 2010, 04:32 PM

love it!

I agree too about the length of gestation. I have short pregnancies BUT i have short cycles!

**Arimeh** · December 1st, 2010, 05:12 PM

Oh yeah, I totally wasn't saying that all women that go to 42 weeks do so cos they're scared - I was talking about myself and my own ability to cook them bubbas a loooong time.. LOL.. because I was fearful, maybe thats why ya know?

But yes, I get my appointments before and after the birth at my house if I want them to be - just not the actual birth. I can't wait till my appointment with her - 5 days and counting!!!

**onthefly** · December 1st, 2010, 05:16 PM

Yeah, maybe... but can't I have a shorter one this time? 6th sounds bloody awesome to me. I've been trying to prepare myself for 42+ weeks all thsi time, but I'm only 38.5 and that's eons away

Yay for home visits!

**~Stoked~** · December 1st, 2010, 05:42 PM

Mel, I don't know if i have told you about my labour (or if you have read my birth story!) but i truly believe that my mind was stopping me from going into labour. Brittney was going to be at the birth... we had spoken about it, she was excited but a little fearful about seeing me in pain. I asked her over and over if she wanted to be there and she always replied yes. I was having pre labour for weeks before i had Archie. I am talking full contractons that would start and continue for hours then stop. After about the 10th time of this happening, (after i had been having contractions 10mins apart for about 1.5 hours then Brittney - who was in bed - called out to me and they suddenly stopped) i sat down and spoke to my midwife about it. She suggested that maybe I was fearful of having Brittney there and that maybe i should give her permission to not be here if she so wished. Brittney is a sweet little thing, she thought i would be disappointed if she said she didn't want to be there, so imagine her relief when i told her that she didn't HAVE to be and that i didn't NEED her to be! She decided that she'd prefer not to be there and all was well! I totally relaxed after that and went into labour 2 days later! I really do think i was holding back all that time.
My midwife was also telliung me about another lady who was in full blown labour (8cm's dialated) when her two year old woke up and was crying and calling out for his mummy. Her labour completely stopped. She had the baby a few days later.

Very clever, our bodies.

***Infinity*** · December 1st, 2010, 06:27 PM

Haven't posted much ladies but I've been stalking.

Meow, huge congrats on the arrival of your little man and on your beautiful birth at home. Must feel awesome.

And marcellus.....sending you lots of labour vibes and you are now being officially stalked.

**Tegam** · December 1st, 2010, 07:14 PM

My midwife was also telliung me about another lady who was in full blown labour (8cm's dialated) when her two year old woke up and was crying and calling out for his mummy. Her labour completely stopped. She had the baby a few days later.

Very clever, our bodies.

Love the clever bodies but but id be pi$$ed to get to 8cm and it stop