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Thanks for the welcome gals, yes, not long now, with all the intense evening BH's I've been getting recently I'm wondering when I really will go. I know it can go on forever even with pre labour. Hrmmmm...
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Good luck HotI! Good little girls don't always get treated very well, do they?Why are you high risk?
The birth centre here has a 50% transfer rate. One of the middies I saw was over there with a couple (planning a domino birth there) and they had stats up from the previous month - 80% transfer (!!!) Gotta wonder....
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I have a neuro condition that is similar to parkinson's disease, but is controlled with medication. It is quite rare (1 in 2 million prevalence) and so the drs get a bit scared because they don't understand it. My symptoms improved with pregnancy last time. It is another reason why staying home would be better because stress/anxiety can make symptoms worse. I don't see this as making me any more 'high risk' than any other woman, but getting the medicos to understand this might be difficult.
With DD, i was told (and went along with) that for your first birth, especially with your medical condition, it is really important that you are monitored and go to hospital and blah blah blah. Next time you can go along with your crazy hippy ideas. Now, i am here for the second time (and understand that the first time it was all bull), i 'proved' myself by having a vaginal birth with a posterior bub and only using gas , and people seem to be backtracking on their support for me to do it my way 2nd time around. I think i need to make a decision and start demanding support, or looking elsewhere if it's not going to be given willingly.
Post birth it took me a few weeks to recover, but going to hospital didn't help at all with that last time. The lack of sleep due to PTSD (due to going to hospital) probably made the recovery slower.
I did a tour at the Birth Centre and the midwifes were awesome, but they have to work within the system. I spoke to one of them later, and she encouraged me to stay home ('Good on ya, F*** the hospital' were her words). I liked what i saw, but i don't want to be worried about toeing the line the whole time.
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Maybe they thought they'd scare the crazy hippy out of you. Lots of first time mums get that message, implicitly or explicitly, even when in perfect health.
Sounds to me like hospital is a bad idea for you. I like the sound of that midwife, though.
Call the IM and have a chat.
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mad: are you going again, woohoo!
hotI: find your inner hippy and hold on tight! find the support, demand the support and do not compromise yourself or you wishes again! the medical system is just to hard to fight and sadly i dont believe any one of us can change it. i had two hospital births cause i didnt know better, OB suggested homebirth for my third so with her support had a lovely mw and homebirth, interstate and baby number 4 i feel back into the medical system and even though i knew better i just didnt priorities myself or my needs/wishes. i had a vaginal birth, nothing like the joyful experience i had at home with DS. if i ever have another then it WILL be born at home.
we are all here to support you anyway we can!
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HotI: i too booked into birth centres with this last pg. my PTSD though really disagreed lol! i found the environment and all the rules a massive frikkin trigger and just kept having panic attacks. it wasnt until i actually had an IM in my dining room chowing down on choccy biccies with me, DH and DD that i realised that i wasnt a freak, but just needed to take a different route to bringing my baby earthside. it was instant how 'right' a fit having a HB was. it is the most miraculously, awesome and yet, normal thing to do ITMS. you will never regret a decision to go down the path of a planned HB that's for sure.
so i guess the gist of my story is get calling! call a whole bunch of IMs! and pick the one that really gels with you. you will know when it happens it is instant! i turned down 2 before i found Nic
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HotI, I went thru a BC with my DD. It was all of the restrictions and rules that had me so stressed in the end and left me feeling like I had to fight everything. I didnt realize that I would be simply unable to do that during labour. Anyway the point I am making is that BC's are great if everything goes perfectly and terrible in their own ways because the midwives don't really have any autonomy. They are forced to tow the line most of the time and I never expected them to endanger their livelihoods for me, which they would have in order to face off against the dr's. It is not because the midwives aren't lovely, it is just because there is a major power imbalance in hospital care. Anyway I am sure I am preaching to the converted! Lol.
Afm well I am looking into midwives ATM. I find myself strangely reluctant for some reason tho. Not sure why. When I got pregnant in feb, I had a MW booked to chat to by 5.5 weeks just before the mc. This time I am more worried plus I think I have watched a close gf interview lots of the local mw's since then and a lot of them were quite fearful of birth in their own way. I know I am gonna have lots of my hubbies fears to deal with as well as my own issues about the last birth and struggling to believe in myself. I don't need a midwife who is scared to trust a woman to birth her baby iykwim? Anyway it will all work out in the end.
PZ, how you going honey? Are you all excited? Can't be long now
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Hi girls
We've had a girl!! Can't post link on my phone but I've done our birth announcement
To put it simply, this was going to be a homebirth whether I wanted it or not lol. Little miss arrived in just 40 mins! Weighing in at 4.29kg, hc 34cm and length 53cm.
I had actually spent the day sick as a dog. Throwing up for a good 6hrs or so in the morning then dozing all afternoon trying to rest and rehydrate myself. I had only a couple of ouchy BH's in that time. Had couple in the evening then at 8.30 realised my waters had broken. It then came on hard and fast. Active labour we've put at 40mins. I have to say short labour is bizarre.. One minute I'm pregnant.. Next it's out! Lol.
We are doing well tho.. No complications. She's got a great suck on her.. Tho she's bruised my nipples already :/ Aah well.. We'll survive.
Hope you're all doing ok
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Wowee Liz that's amazing!!!!! Grats again!!!
Hi to everyone, been reading but not posting - bit stretched for time these days!
Hope everyone is well.
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Congratulations Liz!
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Liz!
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wow Liz, that's awesome! I've always been paranoid about being sick and in labour at the same time, but I guess the body just does what it has to do! Well done!
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i have to agree!
I have to say short labour is bizarre.. One minute I'm pregnant.. Next it's out! Lol.
Congratulations! Will have to look at your BA to see her name! Hope the old boobie survive!
Cant wait to hear more! enjoy your babymoon!
PZ your next then Helly
Mel....busy with four - get out
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Congratulations LIz! Must be really surreal!
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Congratultations Liz!!!!! another wee little girl to add to the brood
man, i thought M's birth was short! but that really takes the cake! hope that you feel ok after that speedy arrival xx
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Congratulations Liz! Wow.. So fast! You certainly don't mess around
Enjoy your beautiful snuggles with your baby girl xx
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Congratulations Liz! Your homebirth was meant to be. Enjoy your little girl!
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Wonderful news Liz!!! Huge congratulations!
I told my MW I wanted a <1 hour labour and she said the same as you, that it can actually be a bit of a shock to end the pregnancy so fast. With my still quick <4 hour labour I was saying I shouldn't feel so wiped out afterwards and she reminded me I had done just as much work as any labour, just in less time. Just wanted to pass that on to you- don't let anyone tell you you got out of it easy. You just gave birth so babymoon it up darl! xx
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