I do not have the support of my DH or any of the extended family for homebirthing Stormy. DH does not want to research it, I will not be doing it. It was bad enough with Liebs, but after the crap DH helped put me through then he's scared of birth and I can't do it alone. Pah!

Result: when Stormy is conceived, no-one will be told. DH will therefore be expecting Stormy a month or so later than the real due date. We have already agreed not to tell extended family I am expecting, just when Stormy is born. (His brother did this with their 2nd, which hurt DH a lot, and my mother was so evil when I was pg we don't want her to know, which means no-one in the extended family can find out because they will tell BiL/DH's MiL.)

As a result, only DH will think he can say anything about birth, I won't have it from extended family.

So, I can go into labour and DH won't be expecting it, so won't have taken time off work for it. He'll be at work, I'll have my homebirth and call him when I'm pushing and put him on speakerphone so he can either drive home and see the baby first OR hear the baby being born. But he won't be in time to cart me off to a hospital.

By all means do your research, but you know what you want already. I was researched up to the eyeballs when I was pg with Liebling and no-one cared or took my ideas, thoughts, research or feelings into consideration. So now I say "sod you all" and I'm doing it my way.