Oh this makes me so sad, angry and sick.

The fact that a male dominated profession get away with treating women entrusted to their "care" like this on a daily basis makes me so upset. If men had babies the concept of "informed consent" would be taken as seriously in obstetrics as it is in every other branch of medicine. As things stand now, it's a joke. Birthing women are physically and emotionally vulnerable and this seems to be exactly the reason they need to justify taking all their power and respect away from them when they SHOULD be doing the exact opposite BECAUSE they are so vulnerable. Just the other day I heard of a woman who had specifically requested no ARM during labour - this was completely ignored and her water was broken during an internal without her permission or any forewarning to her whatsoever. I don't understand how they get away with it either, if that was done to me knowing what I know now, I would have kicked that arrogant, disrespectful so-and-so in the head while he was down there

Kelly you did a wonderful job for your client and I guess the lesson we all need to take from these experiences is the reminder that this is WHY we need to do this work. Use that anger to spur on your efforts, because you do make a difference