Fortunately (or not?) it is sort of the other way around for me.

My own mum is supportive of whatever decisions my sis and I make with regards to parenting - she knows we are both active members of the ABA and the three of us have lots of chats about BF, settling methods, etc. She BFed us both as long as possible (we both self-weaned apparently around 12 mths) and she is completely comfortable with our approaches.

I think she is a bit more comfortable than I'd like with letting DD CIO when she looks after her - however she knows it is unacceptable to me to let her cry - perhaps the more accurate term is "GIO" - grizzle it out I'm more prone to pick her up quickly, mum will let her grizzle a bit - but I stress grizzle, not cry.

My MIL on the other hand, is often even more of a "gentle" parenter than we are! DH and I are struggling to rock/pat DD to sleep these days, it just seems to hype her up even more when we are there holding her, so our new approach is in the cot settling - snuggling her with her toys, patting her tummy. But MIL will still rock her to sleep. Maybe the MIL is more soothing than me?? Who knows.

MIL also loves the fact that I am still BF and fully supports it. She BFed her three, like my mum, as long as they wanted it - my DH BF all the way through her pg with my BIL and only weaned when BIL was born.

The unfortunate part is my DH... he keeps making comments like "you might have to wean her soon" when I wince because DD is biting my BB or kicking my belly. I keep telling him that I don't have to do anything (in a nice way) and that I'll BF as long as DD wants it... but I don't think he is fully on board with that. Maybe I need to find some info on tandem feeding for him...