Liz, I know exactly how you feel. I have a friend who had her 4th bub last September, who has always made it known that she has problems breastfeeding, and was planning to take formula to the hospital. I started to bring up ABA (having heard about them on here) and she got pretty upset, saying how she has had not so great experiences with them, they were too pushing etc etc

In a way I'm glad I asked, because I was going to get her a subscription, but decided against it. I do think I hit a sore spot, an emotional wound... She said she got a lot of criticism from the hospital and health nurse... I am thinking maybe she didn't want to try and breastfeed this time so that she didn't fail IYKWIM?

Anyway, back to you! I probably would want to ring the friend, but not really sure what to say! If you guys have talked about breastfeeding in the past, maybe you could talk to her about how she felt when you suggested breastfeeding classes. Maybe she felt a bit of regret that she didn't get that chance, or that it might have made a difference to her? Maybe your friend has had a not so great experience with ABA (and some people do experience some very enthusiastic ABA volunteers which make them uncomfortable)? I would ask, as there could be a huge range of things going on there.

P.S. I would definaetly support you giving your SIL an ABA membership! What a loving gift, I know I'd love to receive it!