Grr! GET A JOB!

[Calluna]

I'm not really sure if this is the right place but it doesn't seem to fit anywhere else either....

DF wants another baby. He tells me all the time. And TBH so do I! I'm a bit apprehensive about my ability to care for another as DS takes so much of my time (read: all of my time) as it is, but I'm sure I could make it work. After all many others do it.

The problem is that we *still* live with DF's parents! He doesn't have a job and is doing the bare minimum required by centrelink to get one. He just doesn't care! I HATE living with his parents, I HATE living off centrelink, I HATE living week to week and wondering where our next meal is going to come from!

I'm sick of it and now he wont shut up about having another baby.

So DF- If you want another baby so badly GET OFF YOUR ASS AND GET A JOB SO WE CAN AFFORD THE CHILD WE HAVE!!

The end.

[~clover~]

You know your right. Tell him, when he has a permanent job (which means beyond 3 months) & you guys have your own place, THEN you will be happy to have another bub, but not before then.
Or tell him its fine if he agree's to be the SAHD doing ALL the cleaning & house work while you work.

[ss_storm]

I agree with clover...tell him you don't want to start trying for another baby until he has himself a decent job and you've moved out of his parent's place. Surely he doesn't want to live there indefinitely? big I hope he gets his bum into gear soon, trouble is you can't force him to do it or he'll probably dig his heels in even more, or will do it but won't put in the effort that is needed.

DF wants another bub too, but I've said not until DD sleeps through the night!

[Calluna]

I've tried talking to him about it so many times. According to him there's no jobs and the ones he does apply for never gets call backs from. He's soo picky and refuses to apply for anything other than 9-5 weekday jobs. But he has no quals except his MR licence and doesnt want to do much heavy lifting. This leaves him with retail and crappy, low paying delivery jobs.

He doesn't care that he's mooching off his parents, he's never lived out of home so doesnt know the difference and has no issue with thier disgusting living standards.

Every time he brings up having another bub I tell him we cant afford it and that's the end of the convo, it's just frustrating me cause I DO want another but we cant because he cant be bothered to get a decent job and do some old fashioned hard work.

I want to keep BFing so cant go back to work yet otherwise I'd be right into getting myself a job.

I know there's not much I can do, just had to vent a little before I imploded. (we need an emoticon for that )

[Oscar&Grouch]

nawww hun, Dont have any advice just wanted to give you a hugeeeeeee hug!!!!

[retrogal]

H&Z- i know how you feel.. I'm 27wks preg with our first child.. and we are both on centrelink.. (he has been on centrelink for long enough i think) i was on my DP's back alot about getting a job once we found out we were expecting.. He just didnt see the seriousnessof the situation.. I honestly thought that him knowing we were going to have a baby he would get off his butt and get a job.. Bu he uses excuses like he is depressed (which could be half true but i dont 'think' he has actually been diagnosed) and then there is the ' no one is going to hire me as i have quite a few tattoos..) which i think is a load of bullocks.. We also live at my parents.. To which i 'hope' we can get somewhere to rent.. Grr its just so friggen annoying...

Sorry to hi-jack your thread. Just wanted to come in here and say i know how you feel

[Calluna]

's hun. Hijack away lol. Depression can be debilitating. I had/ have fairly bad depression but still managed to get jobs and keep them for reasonable lengths of time. Can you help him out- ask him what he's interested in/ what he'd like to do, then maybe look up a job or 2 together. Then all he has to do is apply. For me (I say for me because everyone's experience is different and I dont want to assume anything), having the motivation and the energy to do it was the hardest part and I just needed a gentle but firm push in the right direction.

The other thing would be to get him to see a doctor and they can assess him and get him the help he needs. Wallowing around at home is not going to make things any better, for me, it makes it a hundred times worse. (I need to take my own advice re the doctor but keep putting it off

[PumpkinZulu]

I'm not really sure if this is the right place but it doesn't seem to fit anywhere else either....

DF wants another baby. He tells me all the time. And TBH so do I! I'm a bit apprehensive about my ability to care for another as DS takes so much of my time (read: all of my time) as it is, but I'm sure I could make it work. After all many others do it.

The problem is that we *still* live with DF's parents! He doesn't have a job and is doing the bare minimum required by centrelink to get one. He just doesn't care! I HATE living with his parents, I HATE living off centrelink, I HATE living week to week and wondering where our next meal is going to come from!

I'm sick of it and now he wont shut up about having another baby.

So DF- If you want another baby so badly GET OFF YOUR ASS AND GET A JOB SO WE CAN AFFORD THE CHILD WE HAVE!!

The end.

Tell him that...exactly that! Come on man, GET A JOB (show him that hehe).

Tell him it's not realistic to be living at his parents, with two babies, and no money. I'm sure for one baby it's not very realistic for you Sounds like he needs to broaden his mind a bit when it comes to the job-seeking and pull his finger out a bit. Yes, it IS hard to get jobs atm if you're unskilled and over a certain age...but it's sooo not impossible.

[allycat06]

Oh wow how irritating! If he is going to sit on his butt at home and be fussy about jobs couldn't he at least make the effort to go get his forklift license or some other kind of ticket/qualification so he can find a decent job?

If it were me I'd be saying no sex for you until you get a job and we get our own place. THEN we can have another. See if that gets him moving LOL