Oooh, both DH and I had the joys of elderly grandparents (in my case, great-grandparents) who needed looking after; neither of us liked that, even if it wasn't full-time. I'd hate to have it be my parents.
34 isn't old - in fact, that was DH's "cut-off" age for any more ttc because that's young enough to enjoy babies, young enough for them to move out before retirement... but I keep thinking that I want my pre-retirement years to be a bit more selfish, not still looking after and paying out for children! I know that sounds really mean, but you have to pick a selfish time, now or later: we both want later, but I think DH has forgotten that! Oh, I can't write that without sounding dreadful, but I know me: if I have selfish years now, I'll resent the children. Same as when I went to Uni: I really resented my budget, having spent time working and being able to get new clothes/CDs/films whenever I wanted. I really missed having my nights free of study too! I don't want to spend time grumping over this. Plus I just didn't want to not have children, and the sooner you start the earlier problems can be dealt with. DH was always less bothered about the infertility issue; he didn't mind being childless forever as much as I did. OK, a silly worry in hindsight, but I am glad we started earlier rather than later.
Car - well, the pram is 90x60cm when folded, so we'll need a decent sized car! Hmm, have to call the in-laws tomorrow and set a date to buy that so we can take it along to the car showrooms.
Baby money/budget - that's fantastic: the in-laws want to spend the same on us as they did BiL and SiL: they spent a fortune on a pram (the very ugly Bugaboo) so because our "travel system" is half that price I have more money for baby clothes! I'm going to buy as much as I can in January in the sales but not go overboard: I know we'll have to wait to find out the gender, then everyone buys you baby clothes, so I'm going to buy the minimum and hope I can pick up some cheapy bigger stuff once the baby is here and growing. There aren't that many baby clothes in charity shops - I know because I love looking at them! Only old toys that don't look quite so safe any more.
Teaching - I'd do senior school. Actually, there's a really good private prep school (ages 4-13) near us that has 2 weeks for half-term and longer holidays than usual; I'd love to teach there. I know I'd love to do A-Level stuff, but 2 week half-terms are very tempting. I know I have to work in them, but still! I can be at home with my children then.
Quickly on jobs - DH has his second interview for the first place this afternoon; wish him luck! His brother's work really wasn't his cup of tea, but always a useful bolt-hole if we need it. I really hope he gets this new job! DH is already planning what I can buy with it (clothes for him, pay off more of the mortgage each month... plus he can buy his car parts) so it would be really good if we could do that!
Hey Ryn how'd your DH's interview go? Are more people noticing your bump now? (not that those two are related at all. ) I guess, being so tall, you have a lot of room to tuck a baby in! I'll bet you'll be thankful for that by the time you get to nine months!
Hope things are running smoothly at your house. Have a great day!
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) I guess, being so tall, you have a lot of room to tuck a baby in! I'll bet you'll be thankful for that by the time you get to nine months! 
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