Hey honey I know where you're coming from. I fell pregnant with DS at 17 and my family were horrible at first but as time passed they got more into it. Now (DS is almost 6 months) they love being grandparents, great grandparents, etc. Just give em time and don't let em get you down.
Oh hun don't take too much notice! She is properly just in shock i was 19 when i fell pregnant with my first and my mum laughed then said most of the things your mum did :P Dam mothers know how to hurt! But i just left her for a while waited till she called me and we started talking then she got more excited then me!!! and now i'm 22 expecting my 2nd and she managed a congrats! but it took a couple of days of sinking in, and now shes already talking about moving closer! LOL!
Parents are strange little creatures! They want to be happy for you but the whole omg this is my baby having a baby sends them into a bit of shock and denile i think!
Just give your mum some time, talk about bubs when she is ready and i bet in now time shes going to be the one calling you up to talk about babies
Take care and i wish you a H&H pregnancy congrats!
Darl, I'm sorry your mum reacted the way she did, I really hope that once she gets over the initial shock that she will be excited as you are.
My dad was excited when I told him I was pg with Brendan, but reacted less excited this time. But he's very reserved and believes in the whole marriage before babies thing Although I was born out of wedlock! Anyhoo he will come round soon.... I know he will.
I'm sorry that your Mum reacted like that! When I told my family, there was no "congratulations", it was more just shock and disbelief and then..."omg what about uni" I think you're doing a great job and all I can say is just keep doing what you're doing, you're in a good place atm and I agree 20 is a good age to have a baby! My midwife told me that I was at a great age to have a baby and that made me feel so good as most of the comments I get are "Oh I didn't know you were married" and "How old are you?"
I think your parents will definitely come around once your bubba arrives and if not, they are missing out
Firstly, big huge congratulations on your pg! That's so exciting.
I'm sorry your parents are like that.
I really hope after they have time to let it sink in that they'll want to be involved or at least be happy for you.
I'm sorry I don't have any tips or anything to help.
I reckon when you see them and they're still doing the negativity thing, just show them how happy you really are and try not to let it get you down.
Thanks everyone Guess I will just have to wait and see if they get over it...lol At least they are 6 hours drive away, so it's not like we have to see them all that often.
And in a strange way, I think it will make me a better parent too, I kind of know what not to do! I understand it must be a shock for them, but having kids is sort of the next logical step, I know I would much rather be a younger grandparent if I was in their shoes (not that they are even old, but it's not like they are going to be 70 or 80 and being unable to play with them...). I guess the next 7 months will tell!
Thanks again for all your lovely words, it really does make a difference when you know that others have also experienced what you have, and that there is lots of support out there (even if it doesn't always come in parental form! Lol).
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Although I was born out of wedlock! Anyhoo he will come round soon.... I know he will.
I think you're doing a great job and all I can say is just keep doing what you're doing, you're in a good place atm and I agree 20 is a good age to have a baby! My midwife told me that I was at a great age to have a baby and that made me feel so good as most of the comments I get are "Oh I didn't know you were married" and "How old are you?"
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