Hi hun,

I just turned 22 in Sept., am in a lesbian relationship, and just had a bub. LOL! My parents had the same reaction to me starting a relationship with Shel, moving in, and the getting pregnant (which, obviously, wasn't an accident!).

When I told them I was pregnant, they were angry, upset, disappointed (I hadn't told them we were trying)... It did get worse as the weeks went by, and by 20 weeks I wasn't talking to them at all. When we found out Jazz was a girl we didn't tell them. My sis told them though, and I think it finally sunk in that if they want anything to do with their grandchild they need to make an effort.

It has been VERY slow progress, as we are all tentatively building our relationship again. However, they loved Jazz from day one, actually they drove 2 hours to see us for 20 minutes in the hospital. This time last year I was 8-9 weeks pergnant, and I couldn't see how they would ever come around or change, and TBH I thought this was the end of my relationship with them. But they did.

I think the initial shock of "oh my goodness my baby is having a baby", and letting go of the fact that they aren't in charge any more, that you have a life independant of them, that you don't actually NEED to be under their wing anymore, is something that is hard.

I hope they realise sooner rather than later that your life will continue with or without them.

xoxoxoxo