No, she's not my sister . . .

[Pretty Butterfly]

I had my first at 19, and 13 months later had number 2!!! I look at the photos now and I look 16!!!

So yeah, I got the "LOOK" all the time....

And its always assumed your some young feral, just popping out kids... But I was married to a good man who worked his butt off!!!

I'm sorry your copping the sister comments hon. I got the "are you babysitting?" ones....

I learnt to just hold my head up....

Your doing a great job, so let them look!!!!

[Indadhanu]

I hear you, I'm 22 (so sstill pretty young) but look a bit younger, and I get THE LOOK. When we are out with SIL people ask HER all the questions (and much to my annoyance she starts to answer like shes the mum... but thats a WHOLE other thread...!).

Wish people would grow up, even if we were 13 it would be none of their business. Who can tell who is a good parent by judging their age (and TBH, I don't think a good parent should models judgemental behaviour, so there we go... *thumbs down* to them if they are parents).

I also hate how it changes when they realise Jazz was planned. Like that should matter... loads of people who are in their late 20s and 30s have an 'oops' all the time... and THEY don't get the look (unless of course they have 3+ kids, and then they are judged also, which isn't right ).

ETA: Jodie... yes I get 'are you babysitting', I've also gotten 'its so nice that you care for her like shes yours...' once when Shel and I were out shopping... They must have heard me refer to Shel as 'mummy' and then ASSUMED... hope they saw me stick her on my boob

[rhyb]

Grrr I get it all the time. I'm 18 so clearly I could NEVER be a mum I just ignore people mostly but I hate it when people say 'Don't you miss having a life??'
Just cz my priorities changed doesn't mean I do nothing that I want to.
Bugger the critics yay for young mums

[LaDeeDa]

I don't think it matters how old you are.... I am 24 and I get the LOOK all the time.
I went into a preg group the other day and because DF is 29 but looks older I could hear people whispering about cradle snatching etc......
It doesn't help that he's 6'4 and I'm 5 foot....LOL
I just give them a scathing look back and laugh ..... it's all you can do!

[Peach]

I understand where your coming from, when I was 18 and pregnant with my daughter, I was covered under my parents health insurance and had her in the private system ... and went to labour classes and most couples there were about 30-35 maybe a few who might be 28 perhaps and they all had their husbands with them ,, and I was going along with my mum or sometimes alone and boy .. I have never felt so ashamed / demoralised in my entired life. BUT ...

I am now 32 my daughter has just turned 12 and we are sooo close its unbelieveable, our relationship is so worth every look, huff, comment .. she tells all her friends i had her at 19 and is so so proud all her friends love comming to my house because 'she has an awesome mum' and it feels really great to have that special bond (not saying you cant have that bond if your not a young mum ... either)

not to mention i have just has #2 and she is the biggest help !! love it!

[Antheia]

I was 17 and pregnant and got the looks. Thankfully never any comments unless they were good ones which was nice to hear for once. But it makes you feel like your an outcast. It wasnt all that long ago that at the age of 22 you had finished having your family!

[alioops]

I have said to people before that you can never judge a book by it's cover when they have told me I am too young for kids. I have asked them how old they thought I was and been told a few years younger and then turned around and said something along the lines of 'I was married when I conceived my oldest and Sure the baby bonus does help, it improves their quality of life by helping us to get rid of some debts, but that is not why we have children.'

[kawazuki]

I don't think it matters how old you are.... I am 24 and I get the LOOK all the time.
I went into a preg group the other day and because DF is 29 but looks older I could hear people whispering about cradle snatching etc......

oh this happens to me and hubby all the time.or they sometimes think im his daughter and taylah is my sister aswell.
it sucks sometimes but i just get annoyed and walk away

[Pandora]

i was 27 when I was pg with DS, so not exactly a young mum. I was shopping with my mum at a baby shop and the assistane starts asking her all the questions (my mum would have been 48) and askes her when the baby is due etc. She laughed so hard I got embarrassed and we had to leave the shop.

People are going to make all sorts of assumptions. I know at mothers group on the first meeting there were 5 of us there, and one girl looked pretty young. I remember thinking she looked a lot younger than the rest of us, but didnt really say anything. Well, she either knew we were thinking it or had copped some criticism from ourside cos she said ' you all think Im 16 dont you! haha Im 25, hapily married and just lucky I look so young!' and good on her!

Like Bath I do wish I'd been in a position to start having my kids younger, there are so many extra things to worry baout, age related risk stuff, not to mention trying to keep up with them.

Mum had me at 21 and my brother at 23 and it was awesome having younger parents growing up. Other kids were jealous!

[Visitor8]

Next time just roll your eyes and say "oh but I NEEDED a plasma" and walk off...