thankx ladies, yer i have found heaps of support online but was just nervous about joining a mothers group this time around in case i get the same treatment.
I'm like alot here, "technically" speaking i class young as 25 and under if i had to put an age on it. But i get along with every age and dont really think of age unless it comes up.
Nickel - thats what the Mums at my hospital were like. Cuz i was still covered on my dad health fund he paid for me to go private as his present to us. So it was a very snobby group all with Massive diamond rings and perfectly manicured nails and looking like soccer mums with their brand new holdens! and i was driving my 15yo barina and DH was coming from work in his labouring gear so you can image their faces.
This time around i am alot more prepared mentally for peoples reactions. With DS1 i was so angry at the judgement because i'd travelled, gone to uni for a year and partied all i wanted i was happy but people just presumed you hadn't 'lived' life at that age!
well thanks for all your advice girls i was just curious what everyone elses experiences were. I class myself as a younger mum but dont feel like a fit in a 'young mums' group because maturity wise im alot older.
Hey smoz, i know what you mean, i was 17 when i had DD#1 and im 21 now and preg with DD#2, still get the "looks" but they don't bother me so much anymore, i class myself as a young mum, i go to 2 'young mum' playgroups and we are all 18-25 and absolutely no judgement is passed about our ages. The co-ordinators are so friendly and helpful and it makes you feel like your not an outsider. I'm in melb S.E suburbs.... where bouts are you?
I'm in S.E.QLD yer im looking around avidaly atm trying to find a group before i stop work. Have been speaking to a few of the ladies on here that are around my area and there is a brisbane meet in Oct so will hopefully meet some nice ladies there.
I've been wondering where I'll fit in. I fell pregnant at 23 and will have this baby when I'm 24. So I don't really think that's young but compared with other people and my friends I am young, none of them are even married or anywhere near having kids!! Lots of ppl aren't having kids til they're in there 30's these days so I guess maybe that does make me a young mum. Where I live though there seems to be a lot of young families around so I'm hoping I can find somewhere I feel comfortable!
yer sarahjane im like you. i wouldn't class myself as young by my age but in comparison to ALL of our friends we are the only ones that are married or have a mortgage or have kids! a few of our mates have just started looking into buying/building. But they are DH's mates and are almost 27!
I know exactly what you mean re, mothers group... I have the same thing. They are all under 18 and I'm now 22! I stopped going and dont know of any other mothers group... so here i am online with the best others group of all!!
I agree with banx, anyone who has their first child under 25 is a young mum
Hey.
I had my first child when I was 26 and tried different mums groups and didnt feel I fitted in. Most woman were older - well into their 30`s and unfortunatly with that there was a fair amount of snobbiness. There were a few 'young mums' that I met, but with hanging out with them it became quickly apparent that I was 'older', in a different life stage to them, even though we were all having babies at the same time. So I didnt really have any group to fit in with particulary.
Now at 32 I am having #2 and figure that there must be more woman my age having babies this time, but Im not sure... havent met any yet! Even picking up DS from school today I looked around the playground at the other parents and realised that most of them were older than me (again/still ).
Its more about finding compatable friendships rather than age isnt it?!
Hope you find other mums to get along with and dont feel 'boxed' this time. I think finding people at the same life stage is often tricker than it should be!
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