Regan, I know you probably dont want to hear this but.... I feel that some fathers that aren't in the "family" environment dont think about the effect of what they do has on their child. Especially younger ones, my DP for instance felt like he missed out on some things that he enjoyed, basically came down to not having enough money (he's a motorcross rider) When we broke up he still didnt have enough money to do those things, and he's now realised that hey I'm missing out on more! Point being that once he gets to Melb and after spending a few weeks there, he might just realise what hes missing out on and come back!
I hope you guys can work it out.

Jo, I had an ultrasound the day before my waters broke and then one after. the day before he was still "floating around and was laying across ways (fine at 28 wks, not good for birth) but on the US after my waters broke he was fully engaged!!! it happens so quickly!

Jessica, LOL, at least you had the pram! Lucky!!! I didnt have anything lol.... no car seat no pram no cot no bassinet.... just some clothes and nappies. LOL

Take Care girls