we've just started legal proceedings to get access to my partner's 2 children, I know we've started down a long and stressful journey as their mother has used them as a weapon against my DH, has refused him access to them for 4 years (nothing has been lodged with family court to support this). With the change in legislation, I believed it was time for him to try to see his children. I need him to heal the hole in his heart that not having his kids around caused, before we start our own family. I want the kids to be a part of our family.

I'm wondering how to get to know them, when I do finally get to see them, there will be a lot of anger and resentment there, I know that they will start off meeting with DH at a family centre for short periods of time and then build on that until we get proper access.