Just re-reading this thread Ive had a chuckle. I remember when J and I discussed kids we said ONE! yep just the one

It was because we came from big families.....there's 5 of us on my side (and all the ring in's we use to have) and there are 7 on J's side.
As much as we hated being in such big families we also loved it. Shiat....we lived in a caravan for years at one stage..all of us with a canvas hot box oven on the side. We went camping at Conny Point all the time, dad took the boys on shooting weekends, went fishing at Port Lincon.........worse thing is....I only speak to the youngest of the boys, my eldest brother died a few years ago, I barely know my other brother and I have had nothing to do with my sister in 9 years.
J's side of the family is completely the opposite, they have to know whats going on all the time (over kill ).

So in saying that...we have both sat down as said what we both hated about growing up, the relationships that we formed with our siblings and parents and are trying to improve that with our children and I dont think it matters how many chidlren you have, you still try to do better then how your parents parented you.
eg.....we both went to public school and have decided to send our children to Catholic school. My children dont get hand me down clothing, not even uniforms if I can help it. I learn to budget, we get family tax benefit for a reason now dont we , we dont earn alot. I hunt for special's. We have trip's to Melbourne and have now sworn that once a year we will have families holiday's. This year is was QLD via road trip which was ace, next year is Tassy.

Life is what you make it and its for living and not thinking of the what if's.......dont have regret's.