I do have my mum on the other hand who has had a couple of relationships since seperating from my dad. I stuggle with the way she goes about it, i have no problem with her being with anyone else but she's just not very smart about it.

So again exactly as i did for my dad for some time i refused to meet him (which she hated) and then when i fianlly did it was ok. Mum ended up moving to live with him and was hours away, luckily my DS1 was quite young then and DS2 was just a baby. She ended up back here and in my home when DD was born and started searching around for another man in her life. It became difficult when i had to make rules about bringing random men to my house who might happen to run into my kids. This didn't go down welll and then when there was someone who stuck around for a bit i let my kids get to know him and now he's gone. The last thing i want is for them to have memories of their grandmother with different men all the time.

So a little off track but not, it's tricky especially when young ones are involved.