Yeah Daibetic way is good too. I'm not good at being religious with it but am going to try and do it this time lol. Good thing about weight watchers is you can still eat anything you want, cake, lollies anything you just have to put it into your points. But then you find you waste your points on stupid foods therefore you learn to eat healthier .
We have been together for 18 years in October. Stared dating when I was 16 and fell pregnant straight away. Married on the 7th October 8 years ago. So in our eyes been married the whole time. So we renew our vowels next year being 19th year. I am 33 and DH is 35.
Hi Soul,
We have mandatory chores. I didn't have to do much growing up, DH had to do a lot, so we are going for the middle ground Have told them, these are things you do as part of a family, they are skills you need for when you live on your own, etc. Anything way above & beyond, we would pay them for.
The big two are 12 and 10. They have designated nights to set & clear the table, stack & unload dishwasher & draining board. They do the bins. They have to keep their rooms tidy to my standards (I don't check all the time, I'm very lenient about that). But when I say they need to be vacuumed, then the rule is, "only pick up the things you want." The rest I throw away. They have to make their own lunches.
Other things they do on request, not on schedule, are sweeping the verandah, watching the babies for a short time, helping BBQ dinner, fold laundry (laugh here).
I find it helps to give them a deadline to complete it, and say it's OK to listen to the radio, watch TV while they do it if that's possible.
Also, for the 10 year old, we have a list of "time out alternatives" for when he's gone too far. Sometimes we have to send him to his room to cool off, but other things are: scrub the bathroom sink, scrub the toilet (depends on how bad the offence was!), tidy up all the babies' toys, pick up in the garage....
im the same castle im just teaching my kids what they need to do when they leave home.
but i dont think theres anything wrong with giving your kids chores my kids hate it especially my 12 yr old she carrys on like the whole world has crashed around her but really she doesnt do that much she does the dishes and takes the bins out and keeps her room clean.the way she carrys on its like im asking heaps of her i had chores when i was a kid.
hello hello ladies its been awhile since my last post and there seems to be alot going on here let me start with the car issue i have a kia carnival its great its not commadore that i was used to but its very roomy heaps of storage i have a roof mounted dvd player with head phones ( came with the car ) and its not expensive to run and like its been said its not like driving a van and when DH got over the stigma of a 7 seater he loved it he drives a nissan patrol 7 seater we thought that this would be great for all the kids but i had probs after bubs with the whole bladder thing and its not that easy getting kids in and out of it. To have more or not. Im kinda a bit iffy at the moment 4 is heaps but i often think of 5 maybe i might get lucky and get a boy, but the money is really a huge factor im taking on extra kids to look after just to make ends meet. Im not sure who said this but bubs 4 will be with me for 4 years on her own before school so that bothers me DD 2 and DD 3 are 16months appart they will go to school together. I would really like to get back to more working hours i love my job so to be there more would be good.
Chores my oldest is 12 and when i ask for her to do any thing its a huge drama the little one not bubs were helping me dry dishes today it was so cute shame it wont last for long. Good news DD 1 has been accepted in to a co ed priviate school we are so excited she will be the first on both sides of the family to go to private school.
DD is trying to get kids to bed ladies do you find its so hard to sit back and let them do things when you can see that they are really doing the hard way the kids are screaming im frustrated i think at times it would be so much easier if i were to just do it it would get down with less drama and quicker i know that i have to let it go and be happy hes helping but my god it can be frustrating
Work tomorrow cant wait im getting out of the house with out the kids for four hours yeha !!
kath
omg catlse I swear I just wrote everything you just did! My kids do all the same things! My two older ones cook as well but they like it and they have on occasion paid bills for me, done banking, even done the whole weeks shopping if I write a shopping list. they are very self sorted and if anything should ever happen to me they know how to do all these things for themselves. Josh knows how to put money in and out of peoples accounts, he is marvellous he is 16 and a half.
yep we are the same here with chores! My eldest (16) feeds animals chops wood(between him and Dad) emties bins and occasionally cooks. He loves to get in the kitchen, which is great for me, but not so much now that hes working in the food industry
13yr old washes dishes and wipes down benches table and stove ( well suppose to) and helps hang out with the washing, and cleans the bathroom once a week10yr wipes and puts away and tidies the laundry once a week, the younger ones its just tidy your room every day (which of course the older ones are suppose to do as well, and make your bed every day! Now to me this doesn't seem like much and not one of these jobs is usually done to my satisfaction, BUT they will still do them because one day they will get it right
They think they have it so hard and yet they have it way easier than we did as kids.
My eldest was so proud of himself the first time he used a washing machine ( he was 14 at the time) and then we bought a front loader and he says well i don't know how to use that
Jesabell and Storm its the same here, my first 3 to my first #$@* head husband, i was 15 when i fell pg and we went on to have three children and 8 yrs before i finally gained the courage and strength to leave, been with my loving DH for 9 yrs in Dec and am amazed every day at how beautiful it is to be loved and adored, he is the best thing that ever happened to me and my kids! The older kids don't see their sperm donor, his decision not ours and his loss not ours!! We have our family here and they are all loved equally and as far as my Dh is concerned they are his kids but he just didn't provide the sperm to create them!!!
kat my dh is the same he is like there dad and when we were pg with jess hes biggest fear was he was going to love her more but he doesnt he loves them all the same you cant ask for a better guy than him he was made to be a dad.i am truly blessed i love him so much
Jesabell that is exactly how my Dh felt and exactly the same outcome!! Its nice to know that there someone else gets what you feel!!
I know i feel truly blessed to have my life turn out like this.
kat it sounds like we have the two best dads
we are so lucky
had a good weekend considering im sick we had soccer today we just missed out of getting into th
e finals clarissa played her best match yet.gotta go better get their uniforms ironed
So true, it's not where the sperm came from it's who has spent the time, effort & money in raising & nurturing the children.
My bigger ones father is a (you know what) I cant call him their dad, cos he doesn't deserve that title.
hey storm i say the same thing my girls dad doesnt deserve the title .
he didnt even ring clarissa on her birthday it totally crushed her thats usually the only contact he has with them and sometimes it isnt even a phone call sometimes its a text saying happy birthday how slack.
It's sad really, they miss out on so much, oh well he isn't a fathers *******& my kids are better off without him unfortunately.
We do perfectly fine without him.
Isn't it amazing how similar some of us are with what we go through with ex's.
My kids have not seen their sperm donor in 6years as of next month, and haven't heard from him in a good two years now!!!! He has missed so many wonderful moments but we have enjoyed every one of them, so i know who has missed out and its not our kids or us...
Sounds like it was an awesome game of soccer jesabell, all we had on this weekend was work for DH and for DS, so really quiet, just the way i like it
And its raining my gosh i think i had almost forgotten what it was
So in saying that i am off to bed to enjoy that beautiful sound
Have told them, these are things you do as part of a family, they are skills you need for when you live on your own, etc. Anything way above & beyond, we would pay them for. 
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