as a life long swimmer, i've never had trouble with changing or children at the pool. Yeah AusGirl they do, but there are a couple of loos to use if you wish (which if i have AF i do) and some peopel shower in their togs, some half togs, some full nuddy. and it's out and changed. I shower in my togs and I get changed in the main area as in the NT it's too hot to get into a little cubicle... makes the shower pointless really! its about knowng how to dress, i take my togs down to my waist, towel dry and whip the bra on quickly and then with the towel around my waist dry the bottom half and pull my undies on. By then you are not wearing anything you dont in the pool (ie a bikini) so i just get dressed normally then.

with my kids, DS goes to the change room at the pools with DH. But otherwise the kids come with me. I probably won't send DD to the mens with her father just cos that is not something she really needs to see and is 'growing up with', whereas boys need to use toilets as men and it's just a normal part of life. I won't send them alone. If no other alternative, they can come with me or we'll go disabled or parents room. If it's me whose got to go and not them, and no options, then I just hold it til i get home. If DH is out alone with DD and there's a need, they'll use the disabled loo or parents room.

I dont ever remember it being an issue as a child (mum has 2 girls and a boy) when out with either parent tho.

what age would i be comfortable sending my son to the male loo on his own?? hhmm it will depend on his maturity level, situation etc and if i can call out to him easily from outside!

i don't beleive parents' rooms are only 'baby' rooms. Most i've been to will have their own loo anyway. so we'll all just trundle off there where we can.