yeah the only damage done to our stuff was when DH's friend was helping - but it was minimal damage, and if others (like family) had stepped up and helped, we wouldn't have had to put up with his half assed pretend help. he is an arrogant shyte and nothing i say is right (cos i have a vagina, not a penis!). doing it without him was much better - but i did appreciate what help he gave (does that make sense - i'm not saying i didn't want his help - just that he gave me the irrits at the time by not listening!)