so are you all saying that you would just invite the rest of your family along without even clarifyng if they are invited or not?

And although we have said that there is no need to bring a gift, she is the only one that has stated she will not be bringing a gift because they can't afford too (fair enough) but than again to invite your whole family for free feed and drink!!!! surely that can't be right! once again i would never do such a thing! but maybe i have just been brought up differently!