I do keep professional secrets from DH without question. I'm a teacher and there is a LOT of stuff that I deal with that is uber confidential and I don't breathe a word of it to him - as much as i would like someone to debrief with that isn't another teacher I just can't. Sometimes I can speak about some things in a really general nature. And the same goes for anything of a personal nature. If it doesn't directly affect him, me, our marriage or our family then I keep my mouth shut. I can't violate that person's trust by telling another person just because I am married to them.

I honestly think it's really important not to tell, because though we say we can trust our DH's NOT to say anything to anyone else, can we really trust that? Can we really trust that they would not slip up, thinking that it wasn't that big a deal and let the secret slip? Plus, the more people that know about crappy situations like this, the more hurt is causes people, kwim? It may as well not be a secret anymore.