Mothers Group Etiquette Re Dribbling On Toys

[Epacris]

I’m lucky, in the mothers group I’m in we all ended up thinking exactly the same about drool, it’s fine to share, the more the merrier. I can see how it would be difficult to be in a group where some mothers don’t want to share the drool around. I’m sorry I don’t have much advice? As a starting point, can you broach the subject in a light-hearted, jokey way and gauge the response/s so you can get a feel for the range of opinions you might be dealing with?

[Charlyfrog]

Oh I'm probably the precious one then

I am not comfortable when other mothers sit back and allow their children to take my child's toys and promptly put them in their mouths. I do teach my children to share but even when DD#2 grabs at her big sisters toys, I am teaching her not to put them in her mouth - I usually replace her big sisters toy with one of her own as she is teething so keeping things out of her mouth is really a no win situation.

I must admit there is that uncomfortability with feeling like I am the odd one out as I am not the all for one type iykwim. I guess my issue is the mums who are the all for one thinkers so don't with hold their children when they are obviously sick and sniffly, and assume all other mothers are the same. Or the other scenario is being told after a play date etc that their child has been sick etc. This happened when I was pg, I was holding my friends baby who was drooling on me and then later in the night my friend shared that they had all recently had gastro. 2 days later I was sick as anything and freaking out because I was only just past the 3 month mark in my pg ....... thankfully I had gotten my 3yr old babysat that night so she wasn't exposed (she loves babys) then a week later my husband was sick.

Sorry I'm rambling a bit and I know that not everyone does things like that (honestly, my friend just didn't even think but not in a sinister manner iykwim, but I'm the opposite - I always tell people if my girls have been sick) so I think it is a great thing to bring the subject up and don't worry about what other people think. Its great to know where you and everyone else stands on the issue because by bringing it up, other mums might breathe an inner sigh of relief as they were too uncomfy to bring the subject up themselves. Then the added bonus, you'll most probably have a much more relaxed time

Anyways, that's just my thoughts on it all hth

[{sarah}]

I guess my issue is the mums who are the all for one thinkers so don't with hold their children when they are obviously sick and sniffly, and assume all other mothers are the same.

Gosh I never took Alexzander to mum's grup when he was sick (or anywhere for that matter) but allowed his toys to be shared around at mum's group. I wouldn't want his sick germs shared around but didn't have a problem with having a bit of drool shared. That said, if another mum didn't want him to play with their child's toy I would tell him no & take it off him.