Or just a thought I had then, maybe take two sets of toys so bubby can be considered the sharing type iykwim. I could have toys just for her mouth and then throw in some "free for all" toys that I can just clean up later. I think this is a tricky subject as I am not sure where a happy compromise is apart from the above thought. I think its unfair for both ends of the spectrum to expect the other end to meet them the whole way if that makes sense? Anyways, just my thoughts again