I think it would be best if you just told her you don't like him - using the word douche is an excellent idea to get the point across. If he is a controlling abuser you need to say it out loud to her. Other than that if he did turn up, are there enough people around that would pull him up for being a douche?
I think you do have to invite both of them 'if you are going to actually send an invite'... The only way around it is not to actually send her an invite to her at all and just assume that she will be there because she will be visiting at that time iykwim... It's a bit sneaky but if she brings up why she didnt' get a physical invite in the mail just tell her you didn't think to send an invite to them because you already knew she was staying when she visited you... Unfortunantly she may just bring him along anyway
On a seperate note last night I dreamt that I met you!!!
ugh, how annoying!
I agree, you have to invite him. But if he is as bad as you say maybe you have to be prepared to ask him to leave if he starts being feral?? Then you can say to your friend 'I'm sorry but we don't put up with that kind of behaviour' and maybe she can get the hint that she should do the same! lol.
Although, that's a lot of drama for a first b'day party and you don't want to have to be dealing with that.
So after all that worrying my friend has to work(just started a new job too so cant get a day off), Devo!
Heaven- He is more of a closet douche so I dont think he would have done anything to warrant being kicked out.
Cherished- Hi Good idea. Ill have to keep that in mind for next party. Hope I was looking spunky in your dream heheh.
Lulu- Ive told her she deserves better in the past, but she is so gentle and loving I think she would stand by him no matter what anybody said.
Winter- Thats rough!
Lucy in the sky with diamonds.
Good idea. Ill have to keep that in mind for next party. Hope I was looking spunky in your dream heheh.
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