I'm like the others, I give what I feel is right for the occasion. Not the cost of the wedding. Sorry but that's the decision they've made not me.

We were the same with having a wishing well due to already living together. But our wedding was pretty low key, so it didn't cost us an arm and a leg. We had a wedding we could afford rather than expecting our guests to pay. And in the end, we preferred having our family and friends there. And any money was a bonus and helped is save for our first house.