Sleepovers.

[Astrolady]

The other night I was out and Ashton was asked if he would like to sleep over on Friday night (tonight) by the mother. Ashton and her little girl are sort of friends.

Today the Dad comes and picks up the little girl and he said "oh I understand Ashton is coming home with us" so I said "yeah I'll come over after tea and drop his stuff off" his reply "what do you mean stuff" and I said "Well the other night I was under the impression he was sleeping over tonight" The dad went right off and said he can stay for tea but he doesn't appreciate boy/girl sleep overs blah blah blah"

I just sent a txt msg to the mum and said "Please let me know when Ashton is ready to be picked up" and apologised for being under the impression he could stay tonight. She said "Oh xxxx said not tonight" and I said "umm no at the school he quite clearly gave the impression of not now not ever cause of being boy/girl"

They are 5. If they were teenager then okay fair enough. What are your views on that. Is the dad just being a tosser? The family knows both Ashton and myself quite well.

[Chocaholic]

I would think that a sleepover at this age with boy/girl is perfectly fine. I don't understand the dad's reaction at all.

Even teenagers, depending on their maturity, I would consider a case-by-case basis but with restrictions (i.e. sleeping in separate rooms such as lounge room and bedroom etc).

The dad's reaction was quite strange IMO

[LimeSlice]

Funny this is up now, my daughter was just asked to a play date by a boy in her class, and she wants to ask him to come and sleep over at her house next!

TBH, I have no issue with it. They are 5 years old!! lol I think I would have laughed at him and asked him why his mind went to the gutter straight away - bit uncomfortable about that one
I probably would also say something to the wife - I wouldn't appreciate being put in the position of dealing with the husband's carry on.

Charlotte is very excited about sleepovers, she is 4, and very keen to have someone - anyone!! - sleep over! PMSL

[Amy_jellybean]

Wow complete tosser! Even if he wasn't comfortable with it, don't you think he would go home and check with his wife what was discussed in the first place? They are 5 FFS!

[Emma09]

I have a 3 yo boy sleeping over tonight and quite often have my 8 yo boy neighbor stay over.
My DD is 2.

I remember sleeping at my 'boyfriends' house when I was 5-8 yo.
Even in high school- male friends were always allowed to sleep over- in the lounge room of course.
I see no problem with it.

[Traveller]

He's a complete tosser. I'm sorry Ashton is having a healthy friendship tarred in this way. How did the mum respond when you told her that her husband said under no circumstances was it to happen?

[Cherished]

Wow complete tosser! Even if he wasn't comfortable with it, don't you think he would go home and check with his wife what was discussed in the first place? They are 5 FFS!

That's right, you may have asked if your child could stay over for some reason where you needed your little one to be looked after and he would have made you feel like your child would have been unwanted and unwelcome to stay the night. That alone is enough for me to think he's a tosser. I think boy girl sleep overs would be ok at any age... Perhaps teenagers could both sleep out in the lounge room but honestly what's the big deal? People have enough weird relationship boundaries as it is, I think nurturing a platonic relationship is important. Whilst I had plenty of girl friends at school and lots of sleep overs my best friend from the age of 5 was a boy. We actually went on holidays together as teenagers and it was fantastic! Friendship is friendship, it's that simple really.

[No.5]

Loki has had a boy/girl sleepover - its the only one he's had. He's 4 and the little girl is 5. I don't see the big deal.

They slept in different beds so just don't see the big deal at that age...

[feeb]

I dont see an issue with it at that age.
I asked DH and he doesn't see an issue either.

[Rouge]

One of DD's best friends is a boy. He's stayed here and she's stayed there. I think that's silly TBH.

[nothing2lose]

He's a tosser

[Nai]

Tosser!

Dd1's best buddy is a boy and we are planning a sleepover for them, they are 6.

I had friends who were boys who I would stay over with when I was a teenager, even up to 17 - so I have no issue with opposite gender friendships and sleepovers

[LimeSlice]

He's a tosser

[Catastrophic]

He's a tosser

What N2L said...

I don't see a problem with it, at any age... Why is it that girls should only have girl friends and boys the same? It's silly...

Me best friend was male, we slept at each others houses for years... And my parents were fine with it (as were his) as we were just that friends... I don't see the need to discriminate over sex. And come to think of it A lot of my guy friends from when I was in primary school up until high school stayed over.

[beansbeans!]

Agree with everyone else. He's a tosser, and his reaction was just weird.

Boy/girl sleepovers I wouldnt think at being an issue until puberty really. But that being said I would let the girls sleep over at their friends house if they were just friends. Growing up I had more male friends than female friends and I stayed over at their places all the time. Just because we were different genders didnt mean anything was going to happen. I dont see a problem if its a 'just friends' situation, but a discussion would be had between dh, myself, and whichever dd was involved if there was something more to the relationship. But that is a long way off for us, thank goodness for that!

[trishalishous]

we had boy/girl sleepovers until late primary school. my best friend was a boy until I started dating his best mate (then things went a bit weird, but we are still friends, after 26years)

[beansbeans!]

How did the sleep over go?

[TaRhLi.]

Yep a tosser.

We have boy/girl sleepovers every night in our house, with DD and our twin boys

Seriously though what does he think 5yr olds do?? I feel a bit sorry for the little girl as when she gets older she will probably rebel against what seems to be a very "over protective" father.