Thanks girls - really appreciate your responses, and all your great advice and support. I have now made an appointment at Sydney IVF for mid Nov, as it is the earliest they can see me, so I suppose its just diet and vitamins until then. They require both partners in attendance - it seems pretty obvious now, but our referring doctor hadnt made it very clear (and hubby is of course happy to attend!)

Briggsy's girl - thanks for the list of questions - I had been wondering that about the extra eggs as well, but wasnt really sure how many it was normal to collect. They have talked about aspiration, but it is considered a Plan B only if we have no luck after a few rounds of IVF, as they dont want to have to operate unnecessarily (sounds a bit unfair really, considering all the hormones I'm going to have to take, that they would be willing to put us through several rounds of IVF rather than give hubby a small operation - but there you go - I'm sure its for good reason).

Bub4me - I'll definately look into the lab tour. I would also love to know how you are going, seeing as we will be in treatment only a couple of months apart. I have told about as many people as you - mums, my sister, and best friend who's a doctor only - and its all hush hush apart from that.

CeCe - Thanks for your advice about DH. We've had a lot of chats as I too was really worried he would feel upset and insecure, but he is really great. For him its about "finding the solution", so while we have some actions to take, he is okay. Finding out he was not infertile was a huge, massive relief for him. Like you, I am trying to make this our problem, not his alone.

Thanks again,

Hellie