K1,

I can only echo what all the others have said here.

I certainly understand your valid feelings, I too never wish any untoward feelings to anybody, but sometimes I just can't help either feeling sad, angry or whatever. It's not at them but more at my (our) situation of not being able to have my own little bundle.

Sasika's comment 'I suppose what i am trying to say is one of the hardest things to overcome is that other people are doing their own lives- and that we cant ask them to change that, can we?' is a very real way (not emotional) of looking at the situaton