Hi Baking Girl,
I too am egg old 42 and my DH 49 - I don't hold age against us cause it is possible to have a healthy baby at this age alot of women do it naturally or thu ivf - yes the costs are extreme but if you can find a way to do it then just do it - i too was a bit scared but these days you have all the screening to find abnormalities. The main reason that really pushed me was I kept thinking if I don't do this I know I will regret it in years to come - I have met a lot of ladies much older than I that never did it and now regret it and I for one never want to regret anything in life cause it is just too dam short!!! Good luck with what ever you decide - and do some more research on clinics - I changed doctors (not clinics) as I did not like my first doctors bed side manner -he made me feel uncomfortable about my age whereas the new doctor says it just a little bump in the road and can't see why it won't happen. You may experience some sadness along the way like alot of us have lost babies but it has just made me more determined than ever now as I know i can fall pregnant. If you have gone to ivf I feel you do want to be a mummy - don't feel pressured by anyone - go with your heart and you will make the right decision. All the best.