farmgirl - I really feel for you. I had my second m/c a week before my birthday last year and I was just a total mess the whole day. DH and my parents gave me soppy cards and I just cried and cried when I read them. I thought this year if I am not pg we will go away somewhere. Doesn't have to be for a long time or anywhere to far or expensive (hard I guess when it's tomorrow but even if it's just for the night). Switch the mobile off and then at least when they do finally catch up with you for your b'day you can say you went away and focus the conversation on the positive/happy topic of your romantic b'day getaway.

Christmas day is always a bit of a bummer too eh?!?!? I feel jealous when I hear of other people pg, it's hard and at first I felt sooo bad for feeling that way but that's just the way it is.

I hope you have a nice day whatever you decide to do.