I'd appreciate some advice/opinions please...

[~clover~]

I think you should take the break. You'll have a better chance when coming back to it less stressed out.
Go & destress for a bit.
Goodluck.

[Ellie]

Having a break sounds good...but it's only a 'break' if you can take a break...what I mean is...if you are, in your heart of hearts wanting to try, it won't be a break but a 'count down' until you do try...if that makes sense...well that's what I found happened for me...I'd try and talk myself into a break!!!

[Bumperstump Cummerbund]

I agree with Ellie - I'm all for you taking a break and regrouping, but do you think you'll actually be able to 'switch off'? There'd be nothing worse than spending all that money on an overseas trip, and spending every minute thinking about what might've happened if you'd spent it on IVF, KWIM??

Darl, I know what you're going through - I wish I had a crystal ball so I could check out the consequences of each decision, sometimes we just hafta take a blind leap

[juniper76]

Emma, you wouldn't believe how many of those thoughts have been going through my own head lately! I'm also taking a bit of a break after back-to-back cycles earlier this year. Right now I'm trying to decide between cycling again in Sept or Nov/Dec (acupuncturist's recommendation). It's tough. And (believe it or not) I've had the same thoughts about the overseas holiday! My only advice for you is that I think you really need to be ready to try again. IVF can be so gruelling, I tend to think it's too much strain (on your body, your relationship, your wallet, etc) to embark on a cycle if your heart's not in it.

Best of luck with your decision. And FX for that surprise natural BFP.

Jen

[Possums]

Thanks everyone, your opinions and insights do help and I appreciate the responses.

Ellie- you make a good point, and DH has even said he's worried I won't be able to switch off from it..I need to really think about that I think

Juniper- it's hard trying to decide isn't it...maybe go with what your acupuncturist says..good luck

[buliej]

Possums - you are still young enough that the few months shouldn't matter. It sounds like you really want to take the break and go away, so I think you should do that..if, as you say, you can really forget everything (mostly forget) and enjoy yourself and not wonder "what if I had done a cycle". And you never know, you have conceived naturally in the past despite what the doctors have said.

[Possums]

Thanks Julie...and congratulations again on your pregnancy...I really hope it's a healthy 9 months for you this time. I know it's a really nervous time for you at the moment.