Vira, I have just read your post and I am in disbelief. What a complete balls up. I can't believe your doctor did not inform you of what she had found (A) and (B) was not completely apologetic and mortified at her mistake. To make you go so far into the cycle and forget that you had a condition that would not allow you to proceed is insane. I have to say your rant is a lot calmer than mine would have been!!! You are one strong person that's for sure. The only thing I can say is that if they haven't spotted this in the 8 years you've been TTC then possibly once it's rectified you'll be on your way to success You have my sincere empathy and very best wishes for success
My sincere best wishes to you at this frustrating point in your journey
What has happened to you is totally unacceptable and all the more irritating because you could have found out about it much earlier than this.
I am sorry also for the way you were left lying on the table - it's not good enough.
As Jasminstar said,
The only thing I can say is that if they haven't spotted this in the 8 years you've been TTC then possibly once it's rectified you'll be on your way to success
Perhaps this is a really positive way you can look at this? I don't want to sound patronising but sometimes I find it helps to write a letter outlining all of your grievances. Be as forthright as you want and then print it off and tear it up! It is more therapeutic than I ever knew.
We are all thinking of you and wish you all the best for your next hyst.
OMG Vira! I can't belive the incompetence of some of these people. I mean, I know they are the experts and we go to them for help... but this is just a HUGE slip up. I'm so sorry for you. I can sympathise with the "how come they havn't picked it up on earlier tests" bit. I asked my FS to consider endo four years ago (and several times since) and he said, oh no you dont' have any symptoms... so I never had a lap done. DH and I stopped treatment for a while cos I just wasn't in the right headspace. I changed to a new clinic and the new FS said same thing... no endo symptoms. Fortuntately on the US he booked for us it showed a small cyst so they went in, and whamo! it was all over my left hand side. I was mad for a bit because it's been four years of TTC... but now I'm just pleased it has finally been sorted. Fingers crossed for you!!
I'm sorry that you went through that, I think you have a right to rant and complain. My DH was at the Eye & Ear hospital this morning for an examination and the doctor examining him brought in another doctor and they had a full discussion in front of us as if we weren't even in the room. Then one of them said "That's all done, you can go now." Way to go on the communication and bedside manner!
I hope some good comes of your experience and wishing you all the best for the next cycle,
Seph
Oh Vira, I am so sorry that you had to go through with that. I really ,really feel for you and can't imagine the anger and frustration you must be feeling. It is so hard to gear yourself up for a cycle and to have to deal with such a disappointment due to someone else's incompetance is unimaginable. Like you said, unforseen circumstances can arise, but this is their error and to not even show the slightest sign of empathy ......%@$#
Having said that, the discovery may get you one step closer to your dream. You WILL get there.
Hi lovely ladies,
Jasmin star, Seph, Taurean78,Daisee and Tantee-Thanks a lot for all your kind words and thoughts and honestly they mean a lot to me and made me fell looked after.
I am waiting for my FS to call me and say what the next move is going to be.I had imagined myslef to be a lot stronger than I am and this incident made me realise I am not, I had to struggle a lot the other day not to break down into tears in the tube train on my way home.
I am lot calmer now and and really admire the spirit of all you long term ttc ladies here and wish you all the best.
Taureen78-I agree with you 100% on how therapeutic it is to write down all your grievances and how much better you feel afterwards.
Vira - "Here here" as to what everyone else has said, and you have every right to rant, dont worry about that. I really feel for you having to go through that . That was disgusting of them, i think.
I hope you can combat the issue ASAP and all the best darlz.
I agree about writing a letter, my step-mum is a counsellor ( a very good one) and gets people to do that all the time - it helped me too with some issues.
Hi to everyone else and hope you are all getting that step closer to a BFP!
Thanks for your wishes and lovely support xo
You have my sincere empathy and very best wishes for success
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