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BW - Just quickly on the Christmas thing; I was dreading the family xmas myself this year a bit. I find second child stuff really difficult, and my SIL and brother had their second child in Sept. The thought of seeing the siblings together reduced me to tears repeatedly, but I also knew that my son would want to see them all etc etc.. and that it would be easier to go than to NOT go and have to explain.
I compromised. We'll go for lunch but have booked ourselves a campsite at Aireys Inlet (beach) from xmas night. This allows us an early escape card so to speak, as well as something fun and nice to look forward to and think about, especially if we are also dealing with a recent negative.
I think it is really important that you put your own needs and emotions first, but I know its not always easy to do. Good luck with whatever you decide on.