Kerbear - we didnt tell when doing a cycle. It got too hard constantly feeling like a failure, with ever bfn. It doesnt get easier when the bfp comes as we are not telling anyone. Even today my auntie cornered me and pushed the ivf, adoption, fostering thing. This whole journey is so draining, both in our own homes and with other relationships.
At the end of the day no one obssesses like we do in here I found it so helpfull, almost like having on tap councelling.
Hi ladies ive been lucky,the people i have told dont ask me about my journey unless i bring it up.well all except for one person.its like im a broken record with her!
Oh Lyra, you poor thing... I was wondering what was going on and thought you were just having a break, but it sounds like you've been through a lot in the lost couple of weeks. I hope you're body and mind are slowly starting to heal. Sending you loads of hugs! Looking forward to seeing you back in here in January!
Kerbear - I too find it difficult to talk about now. I just want to have normal conversations with people. Because they don't know what to say and invariably say the wrong thing! By keeping quiet I protect me and them. Besides the whole - I might jinx myself thing is in the back of my mind.
Hope you're well vic xox and miss b - think of you both often xox
AFM - terribly yucky cramps tonight not like my body to do that to me, I've never had bad pain with AF - not really. Anyway, seems like the universe is spinning everything around for me - I'm just glad AF stayed on track this month and arrived when she was due rather than being really delayed. Am looking forward to getting cracking with the next cycle by the end of the week but in the meantime - I'm sore already!!
Thanks everyone for replying, it's nice to just be able to read how you all cope with talking about it and the emotions. Thanks for sharing you have helped me feel a bit better :-)
My turn - sucks af is giving you such awful cramps, this stuff seems to really mess with it. I was the opposite last month it was the only time I haven't had excoriating cramps during af since doing ivf. Our bodies really are a huge mystery to us, forever changing the goal posts on us. Hope it settles down soon for you xo
Hi all!
Wow, it has been busy in here! I'll try to remember everything I wanted to comment on... Sorry if I miss anyone!!!
N2L- goodness girly, I hope your ankle is ok... I was seriously hoping it would be feeling better by now!!! I know I'm states away, but if you need anything, don't hesitate ok!!!
Kerbear- DH and I haven't told anyone that we are doing anything... We aren't doing ivf but OI so it's kinda different but I can kind if relate... I really hope everything goes super well for you!!!
Myturn- so sorry AF is so horrible!!! Fx she is gone soon and you can start on your next cycle!!! xxx
Lyra- big hugs to you!!! So sorry you have had such an awful time!!!
Krikket- GL and fx'd for you!!!
Emma- GL with your cycle! Hopefully you get a good FS!!!
AFM- yesterday i had my scan and would like to welcome Fred to the party!!! Yep, Bob and Jim have some company!!! Lol! Jim stayed at 10mm, Bob grew from 7mm to 11mm and from out of nowhere Fred has appeared alongside Bob and is measuring at 8mm!!!! The Nurse was AMAZED and so happy!!!! Now we just have to hope like mad no other contenders come from outta the woodwork and that over the next 3 days Bob, Jim and Fred grow!!! Another scan on Friday and we go from there!!!
So happy!!! xxx
Jo white I love the names you give them!!! I hope no others pop up and bob, Jim and Fred behave and grow well for you.
Nire congratulations, must have been do exciting hearing it :-)
Afm - I will be starting gonalf injections and clomid tomorrow as bleeding appeared today so it has brought them forward, scan booked for Tuesday to see how many follicles we can make happen with these meds.
Thanks guys for the welcome and kind thoughts! I feel like I am finally physically back to "normal" although hcg still not quite zero (nearly 5 weeks after 2nd d&c!) so just waiting for that to bottom out, then the long wait for an AF. I've been told can take up to 12 weeks post d&c! Horrific. Hopefully will be shorter than that. I hate waiting!
Nire- congratulations!! Yay for the little heartbeat!
Jo -white- yay for Fred! Hope you don't get any more- cancelled cycles are SO frustrating! I had one once with 4 follies. Fingers crossed it all goes smoothly!
Good luck kerbear and N2L!
me4ever, where are you at at the moment? Thanks for thinking of me Just been lying low and licking my wounds.
Sorry to evryone else who I haven't mentioned- lots of BFP dust! (Did I just make that up? )
Afm- yay AF finally had decided to show her face after a long 71 days. So can you please add me as Cd1.
So we have our appointments all day tommorow to see the nurse, counselor, admin and then fs in the afternoon! So big day I'm guessing full of info and questions!
I'm not even sure what I want to ask them all. I guess me and DH will have a talk tonight and work out any queries!
Any advice would be appreciated on what's good to ask at these meetings! So I guess we will then be ready to start ivf first thing next year.
Me4ever I'm sorry for bfn. I hope your wedding is lovely. Not long now.
Yay for a hb nire
Juniper, fx for the surgeon visit tomorrow. I hope you don't need an op and can get back on your feet soon.
Faye, how are you holding up today?
Kerrbear, you too? Feeling better?
Myturn, hope AF doesn't keep causing pain.
Hi everyone else, sorry for no more persies, I've been off a few days and there is lots to catch up on. I've needed some time to think. DH tol me on the weekend he doesn't want me to do the FET cycle, he wants to wait six months or so. Not sure what to do. I've waited so long I don't want to keep waiting when we have an emby ready to transfer. Supposed to start BT this Friday. What would you do?
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I found it so helpfull, almost like having on tap councelling.
Lyra
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not like my body to do that to me, I've never had bad pain with AF - not really. Anyway, seems like the universe is spinning everything around for me - I'm just glad AF stayed on track this month and arrived when she was due rather than being really delayed. Am looking forward to getting cracking with the next cycle by the end of the week
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