you have been busy in here this morning. it is so interesting to hear your perspectives. when i first heard the statement/fact on the radio a couple of wks ago i was shocked. it wasn't something i had ever quantified for myself- just dealt with and gone on with my life - additional stress included. i had a short episode of cancer (malignant melanoma) a few years back but it was dealt with quickly and i had a good outcome so for me the stress was abrupt (unlike infertility which builds over time) and they had treatment for me and my prognosis and treatment was always very good (not so with my infertility). i also didn't know much about it and by the time i did i was on the recovering safe side. this was my experience and i know i was very lucky and didn't have ongoing suffering like many cancer suffers.

it is a fact that a lot of people do experience great anxiety and stress with infertility, and i believe there is a perception in the wider community that IVF will solve infertility issues for most people. ellie is spot on - it is hard to live within this spotlight while society in my opinion really doesn't want to hear too much about your experiences with infertility. infertility is seen as a personal journey - behind closed doors, dealing with cancer is i think more out in the open with people willing to wanting to understand. but hey this is my perception.

i was the open advocate like many of you, but now after several attempts i am tired and don't want to talk about it with fertile people (everyone i know). but the best thing for me is i don't feel i have to talk about it with fertile people (gosh this is sounding like an us and them) as i can come in here and know that there is a level of understand and empathy i cld never have imagined existing before.

TL best of luck with your scan hun
BW i was chatting with my GP today about my asthma which is aggravated ATM and i was adament i didn't want to consider having prednisolone prescribed in the lead up to a cycle. what don't i know about it and TTC with IVF/FET?
ellie i agree re the respect in BB and here, i find it invigorating to hear perspectives and learn and grow so much more with it. come on AF!
carla your colleague lacks many decent human qualities
rols, what is wrong with yr back (sorry may have missed this along the way).

dusty