Looking for tips on coping with other family member's pregnancy

[MrsA]

Hi All, I am looking for a forum where I can get tips on how to cope with my SIL being pregnant, and how I can answer ppl when they are ask why I don't have babies yet
Thanks!

[HotI]

and how I can answer ppl when they are ask why I don't have babies yet

I don't know why people think they its ok to ask something like that, so my method was to just give a flippant answer, "we are still practising" or "one day".

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

"I don't know - we're kissing a lot and I was always told kissing led to babies. What are we doing wrong?"

Go on - just for the look on the face and see everyone stop asking within days.

[RhiChiChi]

I've just started telling people we are having difficulties - if they are too rude to ask & expect some other answer, then they are in for a shock!

Welcome to BB by the way, tons of support here!

[MrsA]

Hi Ladies,
Thank you for your replies, all put a smile on my face! I am heading off to my SIL baby shower in 2 weeks and I really just don't want to be there! Her family are such sticky noses and I know they will ask!

RhiChiChi, thank you for the welcome
The Fyling Butter, I hope you don't mind but that is certainly one I am going to use I love it!
HOTI - You are so right! I don't know who people think they are and why they think they have the right!

I just hope I can get through that dreaded baby shower! The thought of it makes me ill!

Thanks Again!

[MrsA]

Hi Miss B.
Your post wasn't there before those lines are awesome, I wil be sure to use them all
Thanks Ladies. I will let you know if I get to use any of them!

[Miss.B]

"I don't know - we're kissing a lot and I was always told kissing led to babies. What are we doing wrong?"

Go on - just for the look on the face and see everyone stop asking within days.

That's a classic! lol

OK, I have personally used these following lines (a couple of them didn't go down well, but hey, these people were rude with their prodding into my personal life!)

Well, we have, like, sex 5 times a day, so I don't really know why it's not happening, and like, we try different positions (go into great detail here hehehehehe) so really I just DON'T KNOW

It's a work in progress

We'll have them when we want them

Stop being rude and mind your own business

If the person asking is a tad overweight, give your answer and then ask 'and when will you lose a couple of kilos' and the reverse if they are on the skinny side.

[Liviam]

"I don't know - we're kissing a lot and I was always told kissing led to babies. What are we doing wrong?"

Go on - just for the look on the face and see everyone stop asking within days.

That is absolutely fabulous!!!! I nearly wet myself laughing.

[MrsA]

Hi Ladies,
the Shower was OK, it started late, and I was occuping my niece and step daughter and then left at 3 so it was ok. I was just so glad I wasn't there when they opened the presents. Liviam that is so funny the saying coz I wasn't there very long no one asked lol.

Lans I think I will try the tears next time hehehe EVIL

Thank you for all your support love to keep in touch with you all

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

Glad it went OK for you MrsA - these things are rarely fun, but "OK" is fantastic news!

[Lans]

Hi mrs a! Good luck for tomorrow. I used to get my mil & fil asking when we'd have kids & I kept saying when god blesses us..

Now I don't believe in god, they do.. So I'm presuming they starting praying like mad! Lol!

We lost a bub last year, so they've kept quiet but just starting asking DH if we are "practicing" and make sure we aren't using precautions.(roll eyes) They not game to say it to me cos I'll cry hehe

Tears seem to work a treat cos people get a bit scared they've broken you!!

Seriously tho, keep your chin up & use some of the examples the other ladies suggested.. People can be just so damn nosy. Good luck

[MrsA]

Hi ladies anyone still here ? Well that same SIL is pregnant again!! When I was just deciding to do my first ivf. I already dis like her but now it's worst! I hate this coz once again it's going to be another Christmas of how fantastic she is coz her bits work.

[Miss.B]

Oh babe, big hugs . It must be hard to swallow, it's just not bloody fair!!!! BTW, I just re read my initial post, yikes!! I wasn't very subtle was I I don't get on with my SIL the best, and she had her little one exactly 12 months after I had my first. Anyhoo, we had to do IVF to get my DS and now we're struggling to get DS a sibling. After her son was born she swore she wasn't going to have another one, one was more than enough. We fell out for 6 months earlier this year, and when mum told her we were trying again with IVF, she decided she wanted another baby NOW. She got pg but had a m/c (so did we around the same time) and now they are trying again. I don't know how I will cope when she gets pg, we are having lots of troubles TTC. It just sucks

[myturn]

Big hug lovely