Saffy - I am so sorry darling. I understand the feeling of letting people down as it's exactly the same way I feel after a loss. But you need to recognise people are let down by the experience, not by you personally. Their hearts are breaking FOR you, not because of you. I wish I had answers for you too but I don't. I know it seems like there is no hope at this point but lots of people have been in the same situation as you now and had success later on. When do you get to meet with your FS?
Saffy - oh sweetheart im so so sorry, india'smum summed it up - they hurt because you hurt, they want this for you so much, they would never be dissapointed in you, but for you! sending you love, prayers ans strength my darling xx
oh Saffy, I'm so so sorry lovely it's just devastating for you and your DH. I know you feel let down and you have every right to but you yourself haven't let anyone down - the people who love you want this so much for you because they know how much it means to you. You haven't done anything wrong darling, it's just horribly unfair. On the positive side at least you are getting one step closer and maybe with some help next time you'll be on your way
PS Have you had all those blood tests for NK cells, ANA etc? When I did those they found I had slightly raised levels and that's why I have to use Clexane from +ve bt onwards. If I'd been successful this last time they would have also given me extra progesterone support too so maybe they are a few things you can talk to your FS about when you see him.
Saffy - I'm so so sorry it didn't end the way it was supposed to. I agree with the others you haven't let anyone down they are all upset for YOU. That YOU are upset. That YOU are going through this. It's just not fair. I don't know what else to write as I'm upset for you. Maybe Alice is on the wright path mentioning the clexane and NK cells?. I was on clexane from ET right up until week 12 and I'm still on Cartia. Because of my M/C history I was told not to stop the cleaxane until 12 weeks. Were you on progesterone? Maybe you need to be on that as well as I read somewhere that when we go through an IVF stim cycle we lose some progesterone when we have EPU so hence why they make you have the progesterone pessaries? I was on those until 12 weeks as well until the placenta took the job over. I was also on Progynova and provera as well.
I don't know perhaps they are dumb suggestions?? I'm really devastated for you.
Oh saffy I am so sorry I know how exciting it is to see those lines and then be let down only days later I pray all is still ok but its sounding like you already know the outcome, we women sense these things don't we, I know how your family were so happy for you but its not your fault life just sucks sometimes and your family feels the pain for you and probably feel a bit useless as there is nothing they can do to change the outcome ! take some time to cry and get your strength back and then try again you can do it I know you can, just need to try a bit more like most of us on here its not so easy hey ! but your will get there you have to keep going !
to everyone else hope your doing ok Alice nice to see your name in here and T-hopes and matthews mum .
Christmas is around the corner again ladies and we still waiting to get a strong BFP and a healthy pg life is hard at times and I feel christmas can be so hard for some of you so I am sending extra stregth for you to carry on along this road to a BFP and a happy 9mnths !
AFM well still no AF no nothing not bothered to test again I guess I just have to wait and wait to see when shes gonna turn up and then count down the days again ! I guess I am getting closer and closer to realizing that maybe my time is up and I must just accept that fact ! its not easy though Im not going out without a fight !!!!
you haven't let anyone down. I don't have the answers but I really wish I did.
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it's just devastating for you and your DH. I know you feel let down and you have every right to but you yourself haven't let anyone down - the people who love you want this so much for you because they know how much it means to you. You haven't done anything wrong darling, it's just horribly unfair. On the positive side at least you are getting one step closer and maybe with some help next time you'll be on your way
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