Possum- so sorry you got AF, she's a cow, I can't stand her. Good luck for your next cycle hun xx
Crafy- India'smum's suggestion was a good one( about the acupuncture)-I can't believe you still have no AF though- theres still hope for you, FX she never shows, my friend was getting bfn's until 7 wks and had a successful pregnancy.
India'smum-thanks x I hope your tww isn't too long!
toomanyshoes, Luna, sunbeam, Matthewsmum, -hi and hugs to you all x
Its definately all over for me- have been bleeding heavily and pain all weekend and without getting into gross details- I'm sure nothing is left in there. BT not til Wed but i poas yesterday and barely a faint line now
So shattered, even though I felt it wasn't right, I still got my hopes up for a miracle.
I feel like i have let everyone down- my mum was devastated and DH was trying to stay positive but I think he has realised now theres no hope.
Saffy - I am so sorry darling. I understand the feeling of letting people down as it's exactly the same way I feel after a loss. But you need to recognise people are let down by the experience, not by you personally. Their hearts are breaking FOR you, not because of you. I wish I had answers for you too but I don't. I know it seems like there is no hope at this point but lots of people have been in the same situation as you now and had success later on. When do you get to meet with your FS?
Saffy - oh sweetheart im so so sorry, india'smum summed it up - they hurt because you hurt, they want this for you so much, they would never be dissapointed in you, but for you! sending you love, prayers ans strength my darling xx
oh Saffy, I'm so so sorry lovely it's just devastating for you and your DH. I know you feel let down and you have every right to but you yourself haven't let anyone down - the people who love you want this so much for you because they know how much it means to you. You haven't done anything wrong darling, it's just horribly unfair. On the positive side at least you are getting one step closer and maybe with some help next time you'll be on your way
PS Have you had all those blood tests for NK cells, ANA etc? When I did those they found I had slightly raised levels and that's why I have to use Clexane from +ve bt onwards. If I'd been successful this last time they would have also given me extra progesterone support too so maybe they are a few things you can talk to your FS about when you see him.
Saffy - I'm so so sorry it didn't end the way it was supposed to. I agree with the others you haven't let anyone down they are all upset for YOU. That YOU are upset. That YOU are going through this. It's just not fair. I don't know what else to write as I'm upset for you. Maybe Alice is on the wright path mentioning the clexane and NK cells?. I was on clexane from ET right up until week 12 and I'm still on Cartia. Because of my M/C history I was told not to stop the cleaxane until 12 weeks. Were you on progesterone? Maybe you need to be on that as well as I read somewhere that when we go through an IVF stim cycle we lose some progesterone when we have EPU so hence why they make you have the progesterone pessaries? I was on those until 12 weeks as well until the placenta took the job over. I was also on Progynova and provera as well.
I don't know perhaps they are dumb suggestions?? I'm really devastated for you.
Oh saffy I am so sorry I know how exciting it is to see those lines and then be let down only days later I pray all is still ok but its sounding like you already know the outcome, we women sense these things don't we, I know how your family were so happy for you but its not your fault life just sucks sometimes and your family feels the pain for you and probably feel a bit useless as there is nothing they can do to change the outcome ! take some time to cry and get your strength back and then try again you can do it I know you can, just need to try a bit more like most of us on here its not so easy hey ! but your will get there you have to keep going !
to everyone else hope your doing ok Alice nice to see your name in here and T-hopes and matthews mum .
Christmas is around the corner again ladies and we still waiting to get a strong BFP and a healthy pg life is hard at times and I feel christmas can be so hard for some of you so I am sending extra stregth for you to carry on along this road to a BFP and a happy 9mnths !
AFM well still no AF no nothing not bothered to test again I guess I just have to wait and wait to see when shes gonna turn up and then count down the days again ! I guess I am getting closer and closer to realizing that maybe my time is up and I must just accept that fact ! its not easy though Im not going out without a fight !!!!
Saffy: so very sad for you that things don't seem to be working out. I can only second everything that others have said about it not being your fault and not letting anyone down. I am also hopeful, like others, that something can come out of this that helps you get a sticky BFP next time (perhaps some testing for multiple mc or treatment support like Clexane that hasn't yet been tried). But in the mean time just sending you hugs. I am sorry your path has been so hard. It is all so very unfair. We're here for you when you feel like talking...
Saffy my sweet I am so sorry for your loss. I know from experience it does not really matter if we are pg a few days or a few weeks the loss feels the same because all the potential was there. It's a shame you could not get any genetic testing done becase that might have given you some peace of mind. I hope you are able to look after yourself and let others take care of you through this time. I have no suggestions if I knew how to fix this I would be a mum by now. Huge huge hugs
AFM - It feels a bit wrong to write this right now with all Saffy is going through but my EPU went well. I felt absolutely shocking afterwards and needed heaps of pain meds. When I got home I slept and threw up and just felt awful all day. But all worth it. DD spermcount was up from less than one million last time to 12 million!! Of the 12 egggs 11 were mature and 10 have fertilised. Transfer is saturday if they keep going well.
Just dusting myself off to look to the future, will wait til I see the FS and hopefully i can go for a FET in Jan FX. Am trying to take next week off and go to Adelaide ( DH is going there for work for the week) to relax and not have to go to work- I can't face it at the moment. Still getting cramps and reasonable bleeding, I haven't had a natural m/c before so I guess its to be expected- give me a d&c anytime!
Sunbeam- do NOT feel bad at all- thats a great result , you always get good numbers but those are fantastic!! Well done and FX for Sat- hope they all make it!
Crafty- thanks I am dreading christmas this year, I was so looking forward to being preg and my family having something to look forward to. I'll get into the swing of it soon though- once i put the tree up.
Thanks for the suggestions girls- I will talk to FS about it when I see him- my m/c last year was a blighted ovum- I am getting the feeling my eggs are crap quality. I was on progesterone Porsche but will ask bout clexane.
I was so naive last year- we had been trying for 1 month when I fell preg ( yes, 1 month) so after my m/c I foolishly thought I would get UTD again in the next 6 mths- fast forward to 2 years later...oh well if Mariah Carey can do it - so can I!!!
Thanks again all of you, you made me feel so much better xx
Its official- my HCG is 6 ( need another blood test next week cos its over 5 - typical), bleeding stopped suddenly last night so YAY, have started OPKs already as my body doesn't wait around to O, expecting it next Monday/Tues which will be good cos I am planning to be in Adelaide with DH. Seeing FS in 2 wks- then onwards and upwards to Jan.
Sunbeam hope you have recovered from your Epu and you are up and about-we will both get our 2011 babies, I'm determined.
Hi to everyone else, hope you are having a good day x
you haven't let anyone down. I don't have the answers but I really wish I did.
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Its definately all over for me- have been bleeding heavily and pain all weekend and without getting into gross details- I'm sure nothing is left in there. BT not til Wed but i poas yesterday and barely a faint line now
it's just devastating for you and your DH. I know you feel let down and you have every right to but you yourself haven't let anyone down - the people who love you want this so much for you because they know how much it means to you. You haven't done anything wrong darling, it's just horribly unfair. On the positive side at least you are getting one step closer and maybe with some help next time you'll be on your way
, you always get good numbers but those are fantastic!! Well done and FX for Sat- hope they all make it!
- typical), bleeding stopped suddenly last night so YAY, have started OPKs already as my body doesn't wait around to O, expecting it next Monday/Tues which will be good cos I am planning to be in Adelaide with DH. Seeing FS in 2 wks- then onwards and upwards to Jan.
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