KMM - I unerstand about not telling family, I did for my first few cycles, but not sure if I will for my next one. It is a lot of pressure to deal with (on top of the cycles). But in saying that family can be the best support. I found my family weren't really sure what to say so they would try with (what they thought were) encouraging comments like "maybe if you just stand on your head this time" or my favourite "maybe if you just keep you legs crossed after the transfer". These comments aren't really so bad, unless of course your telling them to highly emotional, extremely hormonal lady doing the TWW.
Mellisal - I feel for you and big It is always hard to hear about other peoples pregancies, especially family.
AFM - just waiting, waiting, waiting for all by BT the new FS ordered to come back so that I can start on the pill ready for my DR cycle.
Thanks heaps, Juniper and Trueblue. I'll aim to be so groggy with pain meds & whiskey that I won't feel a thing! I'm getting it done at the Mater this Friday. I think my new FS suspects I have endo, even though I had a laparasocopy, hysterocsopy & dye studies done at the end of 2008, and no endo or anything was found.
Melissal, I feel for you. Hearing a sibling is pregnant, esp in the way you found out, would be really rough. Where are you planning on going for your holiday?
Thank you everyone for the welcome. It's just so nice being able to talk to people who understand the emotional ride, & don't make judgement.
I am waiting to begin my stim cycle, maybe tomorrow. My regular period is late ??. I know you all understand how years of TTC + late period, suddenly gives you hope. The roller coaster ride continues.
Hi Ladies
Wow so much happening in here. Wishing everyone all the luck in the world!!
Thanks for all of your support! Ive changed my signature to say BFP even though I still don't know if its going to be viable I may as well be positive and I def have been or am pg so I may as well.
Thanks for your advice on the results, ive rung the clinic and they are checking now to see if the results have come in, FX.
Melissa ~ Good to see you back in here. Im sorry the ways things are with your sis, I know it must be hard. Chin up and keep trying - big hugs!
Trueblue ~ thanks chicky. Thinking of you guys too and everything crossed! mwah xoxo
Melissal - Sorry you had to experience hearing about the pregnancy like that. My sister is pregnant (her first month of trying at 37) and it's been tough at times. I imagine it's hard for people around us IVF'ers who have been trying for so long to know how to tell us they are pregnant, but I completely and utterly understand the mixed feelings it's brings. Hopefully of course you will have your own news to share very soon!
Kmm - Hi and welcome. I am sorry to you to come in here, but hope that it makes a difference to your journey as it has for me to have people who genuinely care and understand what you are going through. Hoping your journey here is short and sweet
Brunette - I was all prepared when I had my HSG for awful pain, but it was like a light period cramp. I hope yours is the same.
Loops - hoping the news is good for you! Hope you don't get into trouble now for having a BFP on your sig but you deserve to have it there!!
Hi to all your lovely ladies - Juniper, Petta, Trueblue, Brunette, Renee, MelTTC, Marcellus and anyone else I have missed. There are far too many of us in here (you know I mean we should be in the pregnancy after LTTC forum!)
AFM -My DH is off the hate list now, but his response to my sadness at failing for the 4th month in a row shows how much is underappreciates what I go through. I am going to the FS next Wednesday and going to ask why he thinks I started bleeding at 10dpo which I have never done before and used the same protocol I used for my last FET. It was the best graded blasty you can have, but it didn't even make it 5 days so am wanting some idea what happened. I also want to find out about the likelyhood of having 2 embies transferred, maybe not my next FET, but the one after if that also fails as that will be a lot of failures (and a lot of money!)
Loops: Thanks chick. Ohhhh I really hope they have the results in. You deserve to shout at the top of your lungs "I'm pregnant" you've been through hell and back with this round. But all will be worth it if all is good. Thanks again chick I am looking forward to when we see the councellor on wed hopefully she can answer all our questions about everything and then I can come verify with you guys lol....
to kmm. You have come to right place for support. Hopefully your time in here is short and sweet. Goodluck with your next cycle. Also understand about not telling everyone. I have found with time I have become more comfortable and have shared with family and freinds. You do what you feel comfortable with.
melissal ~ I fully understand your situation. My sister also fell pregnant after 1 month of ttc in January. It was difficult for her to tell me because she knows that I have been ttc for over 2 years. I am very happy for her though, but it's not going to be easy for me. Also planning a holiday is a fantastic thing to do. We have just booked a trip to Canada in June so we have something to look forward to if this cycle doesn't work out.
lairdoz ~ Sorry to hear about your result. Hope you and DH have sorted out the support issues and he changes his attitude the next time.
loops ~ good for you! You deserve that long awaited BFP! I certainly have no issue if it appears in your signature.
juniper ~ great to hear you are making a speedy recovery!
Hello to everyone else - hope you are doing well.
AFM ~ 1 more week to go before BT. I am not feeling very confident. I have been experiencing PMS and cramping. If I go based on my previous cycle I am expecting AF to arrive two weeks past EPU which will be on Wednesday. I figure if I get passed that day I have a shot. Anyway not going to POAS cause I don't want to waste my money. I have no frosties left so looks like I will be doing another stim cycle if this doesn't work. I had to say no to a business trip (Phillipines) just in case I have to complete a stim cycle. Sorry to sound so beaten already....but I seriously don't feel very positive right now....
Thanks ladies
I better take it off my sig as Ive already had one rule violation in having my signature too many lines. Only cause I didnt realise.
I also thought it was only tickers you werent allowed but I'll take it off just in case. Im sure ive seen others with just a BFP though.
Thanks for understanding and not being concerned about me having it up - I know you ladies understand what Ive been through.
You are all amazing people!!
Lairdoz ~ Im glad things are better with you and DH and I hope you get lots of answers at your FS appointment xo
Melttc ~ Im sorry you're feeling its gunna end bad but remember AF type cramps can be a good sign for some people. Dont give up just yet, FX for you xo
Loops - you're correct, it's not allowed, though hasn't been very well enforced in the past.
(shhh, under the circumstances I probably woulda just let it slide...but it's good of you to think of it)
Thanks Marcellus for understanding. I did end up reading the stuff you put at the start of the thread. Sorry I missed that. I will leave it off saves any hassles or issues or is what I have now ok?
Should hopefully here about BT today, thanks everyone xo
Phew... so much is going on in here. I have been MIA for a while. I will attempt persies, but please forgive me if I'm a bit behind...
Juniper - I'm happy to hear that your FS is feeling confident. Now that you both know exactly what you are dealing with, it will be so much better to treat. How are you feeling? I am almost 100% now after my Lap (with just the occasional tingle in my bellybutton - weird I know).
Loops - what can I say? Big hugs to you. Like you said, you got another step closer than you have been before. Next time is onwards and upwards for you. You have been on the big kahuna of rollercoasters with your cycle this month
Lairdoz - They drive you bananas sometimes. Absolutely NFI sometimes and then can be ultra supportive and sensible at others.
Brunette - Gl on Friday.
Marcellus - Congrats on your blastie. Hope your 2ww does not drag out too long for you.
Krisgray - Welcome. I am with SIVF. The prices are staggering, however I have heard great things. We have not yet started our cycle but am impressed so far.
Kmm - This is a great place to be to share your experience, vent and have unjudgemental support.
Mellttc - I know how you feel. In the 3 & ½ years we have been TTC, I have had to buy 19 new baby presents for family, friends and colleagues. Yep 19! I sometimes feel like the elephant in the room around people with babies. I had a close friend call be on the day before my IVF cylce that she was pregnant with #5 (8th pregnancy – 3 terminated) and she didn’t know how it happened and it wasn’t planned! Oops! etc etc. I was further upset later – when she and hubby dropped the kids around on their way to the hospital whilst she had bub – that he said “this one was all your idea”.
I can understand that people may feel cautious, it’s a difficult situation and it sounds like your sis meant well and is very caring. I know tho, that it is still very upsetting.
Renee - GL with your FET. When will it be? It is easy to feel like a pincushion at times.
CK77 - GL for EPU onFriday. Sounds like you don't have a lot of faith in your FS. Hope you get all your answers from his colleague. Are you able to switch?
BTB - Emerald - If you are lurking - a big fat hi to you both. I hope you are travelling well.
to anyone I've missed.
AFM - Like I said I have been out of action for a bit just trying to regroup. I had my appointment with my FS after my Lap. I have stage 4 endo - he removed some, but also have it quite extensively on my bowel (which more than likely will have to be resectioned at some time down the track). Good news is that he removed some from my uterer. If it had been allowed to grow and penetrate it, it was a possibility that I may have lost a kidney in 5 years or so.
So, I am on medication now for 3 months (1 injection/month) before my next stim cycle. This puts your body into a menopausal state to allow the endo to settle a bit. The main side effects so far is extreme tiredness and I struggle to stay awake past 8pm!
I am still lurking in here but am feeling frustrated that I have to wait another 3 months although my FS said this will increase my chances on the stim cylce. It feels so contradictory to what I want to be doing so I am trying to mentally distance myself all from it all a bit. But you girls in here have been such a great support, I don’t know if I can stay away lol.
BTW – I found a really good book at my local library called. ‘A Few Good Eggs – Two chicks Dish on Overcoming the Insanity of Infertility’. Two ladies in the US who have been through the TTC journey have gotten together to write a candid account of TTC and all the wonderful stuff it entails ie medical facts, relationships, obsessing over cylces, TWW’s etc. It also has a lot of anecdotes from other women. So far, it's a good read if anyone's looking for something other than google to satisfy their hunger for knowledge LOL. (I am the google queen)
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Brunette - my FET was the same as Renee's ("natural" FET) - no drugs before O, just monitoring and then progesterone after transfer. I don't think I'd be keen on a HRT FET by the sounds of it!! But we'll do whatever it takes, won't we!
Renee, that's cute that they care about you. FX you don't have much longer to wait.
Tantee, funny you should mention that, because the belly button one has been slowest to heal for me. I'm still wearing a bandaid over it so my clothes don't rub on it (I never wear dresses) but my jeans button is digging into it today... What injections has he got you on? I really hope all of this gets you a BFP with your next cycle!
Afm, baby mania is about to hit this office. My manager is gearing up to take his 3 weeks paternity leave (for #2 - they started TTC#1 the same time we did ). Then not long after he gets back the man in the office next to mine leaves on his paternity leave (again for #2 - they started TTC#1 the AFTER we did - double ). There were lots of nappy and sleep deprivation jokes in today's office meeting...
so sorry i have been MIA. I have had an assignment due and then we were one of the fortunate people in Perth to lose power for almost 36 hours after Monday's storm, so still haven't finished my assignment and haven't been able to check in with all of you.
I'm at work and only have time for a quick post, so sorry for no personals. But I have had a quick squiz and good luck to all who are waiting for something.
Loops - I was so sory to read your news. *hugs*
AFM - I went in on Monday for my first scan since starting the puregon and had a lot of follies growing (which was quite exciting for someone who doesn't ovulate). After the scan the nurse told me that they would possibly see me for EPU on Wednesday, but it just depended on the bloods. I was so excited at that prospect, as I wasn;t expecting my ovaries to respond so quickly on such a low dose (125IU puregon) if at all. Obviously bloods weren't quite right because they rang that afternoon and said come for another scan on Wednesday and EPU will likely be Friday. They called me earlier and yes my EPU will be Friday. I had about 14 follies on my right ovary, ranging from 1.2 to 1.8mm with one being 2.4mm and another 7 or something on the left, all between about 1.2 and 1.7mm. So I'm a bit wary of OHSS, but they didn't seem to be too concerned. I am so excited and nervous at the same time.
Due to the storms, the hospital where my clinic is has been damaged in some parts (including where they do the EPU) so I have to go to another clinic to get the EPU done. So that will be a bit weird, because I don't know them, but I guess, since I've not done IVF before, I don't really know the people who do it at my clinc either! And to weigh into the DH/DP debate, mine has been so fantastic to me, however when I rang him today to let him know about Friday and told him the process would be:
- me admitted at 7am at 'other' clinic
- he goes back to our clinic (only around the corner) to deposit his fresh sample
- he comes back and waits for me at other clinic
- we both go back to our clinic for run down of meds and protocol post EPU
he seemed a LITTLE put out... I was at work so couldn't say much, but its like, ummmm I'm going to be getting a needle up my you-know-where and you're worried about a couple of trips around the block??
It is always hard to hear about other peoples pregancies, especially family.
to kmm. You have come to right place for support. Hopefully your time in here is short and sweet. Goodluck with your next cycle. Also understand about not telling everyone. I have found with time I have become more comfortable and have shared with family and freinds. You do what you feel comfortable with.
I know how you feel. In the 3 & ½ years we have been TTC, I have had to buy 19 new baby presents for family, friends and colleagues. Yep 19! I sometimes feel like the elephant in the room around people with babies. I had a close friend call be on the day before my IVF cylce that she was pregnant with #5 (8th pregnancy – 3 terminated) and she didn’t know how it happened and it wasn’t planned! Oops! etc etc. I was further upset later – when she and hubby dropped the kids around on their way to the hospital whilst she had bub – that he said “this one was all your idea”. 
to anyone I've missed.
). Then not long after he gets back the man in the office next to mine leaves on his paternity leave (again for #2 - they started TTC#1 the AFTER we did - double 
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