Hey now ladies what's all this farm talk, I am jealous I live in a flat and don't even have a garden or a pet (I wish!).

Trishy - so exciting that you got 5, rest up and hope it all goes really well for wednesday!

Aurian - welcome, I'm a newbie too but found this place really helpful - gives me a time & place to do my obsessing with ppl who understand!

Wantanime - sorry I don't know much about egg size but I guess your doc would - if it were me and doc is really doubtful I think I might be considering a fresh start and another cycle just to take a bit of stress off (but I'm not a hardened stress-warrior like some of the ppl here!).

Terry - hope this is the month, have some fun au naturelle!! re embarrassing sedation effects, DH has now revealed that I was also waving and saying hi to all the nurses in the middle of my opu! Ha! No memory of this either of course.

DiR - did you tell your new employer anything about ivf situation?

porsche - good luck, is it a FET or a stim cycle you're starting?

Kass - any tips on how to relax!?!? I am so overexcited & I admit 10% scared!

AFM, had my transfer today - can't quite believe it! Our 3 embies made it to excellent blastocysts, so we are really pleased. We got to see the one they transferred, so cool, I wasn't expecting that. I nearly cried! Having never been pregnant I feel quite strange walking around knowing it's there & just praying like crazy it will attach.

Marie, Loops etc - I hear ya. I think it's pretty rare for people to know how to be sensitive let alone supportive. We have felt pressured enough over the years by ppl who assumed that we were not trying and putting it off and must need a bit of a reminding about it (! like I'm gonna go oh right, kids, forgot all about that, thanks I'll go and have me some now). Just going to a FS for the first time was pretty emotional, facing all those tests and the possibility that it'd never work out for us, so at first we didn't want to tell anyone about starting ivf. Eventually we decided that my mum would be really hurt if I didn't, so I have kept her in the loop with every detail, and also told my bro and SIL who have been thru ivf themselves. But that was it.

Then my latest stress: yesterday I found out my stepdad accidentally blabbed it to my stepsister and her partner and who knows who else knows now, they are all wanting to know how it's gone. When others I'm closer to don't even know. I'm having dinner with stepsis tomorrow and I so don't feel like talking about it (esp since she has 2 babies no troubles).

I mean stepsis didn't tell me till 12 weeks in about her 2 pregnancies so why shd ivf be any different? If something goes wrong I don't want to have to deal with people hassling me for updates and trying to be understanding when they just can't understand. But then others might resent not having been told. How did you guys decide who to tell? How many did you tell? Once they do know how can I say nicely, 'don't expect any updates for 3 months'??