Hi Valleygirl. I am also new to this, although I have been lurking for several months, following everyone's stories. My DH and I have been trying for #1 since Apr 07, and I will also turn 35 mid year. I had all the tests with FS only to be told all is normal with both of us. This was Nov 07. My FS gave us a choice there and then, after only 9 months of trying naturally, due to my age. We had decided to continue to try naturally until Mar 08, and I will start OI + IUI in 1 week. I suggest speaking with your FS again, but this time be firm about your choices and don't give up. If they won't refer you for IVF yet, change to another FS. Good Luck!