Mums of Wannabe Mums

[Persephone1]

MY Mum .. came around yesterday and proceeded to bend over and talk into my stomach to the non-existant baby. Then tell us its a boy?? wtf??

My Mum did the same...and I wasn't even in a cycle, so there was nothing in there, not even an embryo. She patted my stomach.

And My Mum has also asked whether we should get a sperm donor. In front of DH. Nice.

My Mum told me if we adopt, can I get a little asian baby with spiky hair or one with dark skin *they are so cute*

OMG, seriously, she's insane. But had me

[Muppity]

I am SO GLAD that it isn't just me.

[Persephone1]

Ooh, I keep thinking of more and more.

When I had my chemical pregnancy, I completely fell to pieces. I had to have counselling for early miscarriage, because I really hit rock-bottom. I told Mum that we would be taking a month off IVF because I needed the break. She was 'disappointed' because she thought it would be a better idea to 'build on the momentum' and go straight into another cycle. Not sure what momentum she was referring to - the momentum where I keep going until I fall into a crevass?

She also rang me one day to tell me that one of her workmates was pregnant with twins. She said she got very upset because DH and I had been trying for so long and it was...wait for it...her turn. Not my turn. Her turn.

I think My Mum needs to come with a translator - everything she says to me can be translated loosely into: "Please hurry up and get pregnant, I want to live through you and have another grandchild. At any cost. Regardless of what you think/feel."

[Nasey79]

Thanks for this girls....I thought that I was being selfish because I have stopped telling my Mum half of what we are going through because I couldn't stand how she reacted. I'm so pleased that it's not just me!

My Mum tells my husband every time she sees him that he needs to were looser underpants!

[MummaSue]

Oh Persephone, that made me giggle so much..... my mum is exactly the same.

My mum was upset when my little cousin fell pregnant because my aunt (who she doesn't get on with) got to be a granny first.

My mum, who fell pregnant with me at 15 told me (when referring to getting pregnant) that "it's easy, I mean, it worked for me" - I said "mother, everyone would fall pregnant at 15, we are most fertile then, we just aren't all that stupid". (as you can imagine, that didn't go down too well).

My mum, when hearing about our first IVF cycle said "well, you know you just need to relax, oh and also you need to put on some weight" (years ago I was very overweight and was always told that I was too fat and needed to lose weight).

I've told my mum that she isn't allowed to ask me anything about the IVF and that I will tell her if there is anything she needs to know. When I was chatting to her on skype the other day (I'm Scottish and live in Aus), she says to me "what's wrong with your skin? Are you having a bad reaction to the hormones?" - her way of trying to ask me stuff about the IVF.

*sigh*

DH's mother text him the other day and told him that we need to stop stressing, not bother with IVF and just drink lots of that "lovely Aussie wine". Because, yeah, THAT is how we get pregnant people, didn't you all know that?????????

Dear. God.

This has been a great thread guys, thanks for letting me get my two bobs worth!!
Hugs to all.
Sue xxx

[dusty]

Thanks for sharing everyone, if we didn't laugh at their nonsense (and odd ways of expressing love and support) we would probably be curled up in a ball rocking or bashing heads on walls.

My mum has been slightly distant about the whole thing but supportive at the same time.
However she did once say catching up after our m/c.

Mum: So how are you doing Dusty?
Dusty: Well I seem to be coping but get sad and sometimes....
Mum: [interupting] No, I mean how are you doing 'physically'.
Dusty: (WTF!).....

[Cupcake]

My Mum tells my husband every time she sees him that he needs to were looser underpants!

[Heaven]

wtf is wrong with mothers?????????????
I was TTC for a yr and every time i spoke to mum she would say 'so are you pregnant yet or what?' and then sigh when I said no.

After I had a m/c she told me 'Oh great, now I'm going to have to go back to asking you if you're pregnant all the time! WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

About a wk after I found out the baby had died and before I'd even actually had the m/c my mum is having a conversation with my Nan in front of DH and I about how she fell pregnant first time every time. Thanks!!

[Dr. Tal]

This thread is fantastic. My mum is over visiting and I was talking in my thread about her and someone Ammaki pointed me here. It's nice to know I'm not the only one getting frustrated with their mother. Mine doens't know we are TTC, but since she takes everything in my life personally (is still upset with ex's that broke up with me, and only just stopped asking me why I broke up with one of them because 'he was so perfect for me'...as in perfect for her not for me, I was suppose to forget about the fact that he cheated on me.
The SIL comes out with some real good ones too.

My Mum said that "I knitted both of your baby afghans in neutral colours. because it is taking you and DH so long to give me grand babies I needed to get them knitted before I die, so they know how much I loved them". I can't even get pregnant with one and she's already planning for two!

SIL said that "you two are selfish for not having had kids yet, and that you better stop thinking about yourselves and start thinking about the family and have kids. After all how hard can it be, I fell pregnant accidentily, three times, you'd think you two would at least be able to have one"

[JLeigh29]

My mum doesn't know we're ttc but I was going to tell her in the next few days. After reading your thread I might leave it awhile longer! And MIL would be EXACTLY like all your Mums so she will NEVER find out!

Great thread!