Mums of Wannabe Mums

[Dr. Tal]

This thread is fantastic. My mum is over visiting and I was talking in my thread about her and someone Ammaki pointed me here. It's nice to know I'm not the only one getting frustrated with their mother. Mine doens't know we are TTC, but since she takes everything in my life personally (is still upset with ex's that broke up with me, and only just stopped asking me why I broke up with one of them because 'he was so perfect for me'...as in perfect for her not for me, I was suppose to forget about the fact that he cheated on me.
The SIL comes out with some real good ones too.

My Mum said that "I knitted both of your baby afghans in neutral colours. because it is taking you and DH so long to give me grand babies I needed to get them knitted before I die, so they know how much I loved them". I can't even get pregnant with one and she's already planning for two!

SIL said that "you two are selfish for not having had kids yet, and that you better stop thinking about yourselves and start thinking about the family and have kids. After all how hard can it be, I fell pregnant accidentily, three times, you'd think you two would at least be able to have one"

[Possums]

It is funny reading these stories. I am glad you can all manage to step back and laugh, otherwise I'm sure the comments would drive you mad.

I have to say I am very lucky though...my mum is a great support, very close and understanding. I am so glad I have her. She sometimes might say the wrong thing, but she always tries very hard to get it right, and usually does. I just feel sad she still doesnt have a grandchild, I know she feels it (I am an only child).

[Persephone1]

SIL said that "you two are selfish for not having had kids yet, and that you better stop thinking about yourselves and start thinking about the family and have kids. After all how hard can it be, I fell pregnant accidentily, three times, you'd think you two would at least be able to have one"

Taleutia, that is terrible, I'm sorry you had to hear that. It would be so tempting to tell her where to stick it, but I think a lot of us bite our tongue because we don't want to tell them we're TTC.

I've had a few choice phrases from workmates as well. Last April three of my colleagues announced their pregnancies within 3 weeks of each other, and two people turned to me, in front of everyone, and made comments about "it'll be you next" and "you just need to sit in this chair and you'll be pregnant." Little did they know that I went home and cried that evening. Unfortunately the only way to get them to shut-up is to tell them that we're TTC and going through IVF, which usually silences them.

Sue, I have also tried banning my Mum from asking about IVF, so she says "so, how are you doing this month?" as if she's just interested in how I am generally.